Huntard writes:
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if they call themselves that, why can't I?
Because a term used by a member of the group that it is an insult against carries a different tone than it being used by a member outside of that group.
In the former case, it is an indicator of "we." In the latter case, it is an indicator of "you" (or "they"). When someone in the group uses it, the trust dynamic is that it most likely isn't being used in a derogatory fashion. When someone outside the group uses it, the trust dynamic is that it is most likely is being used in a derogatory fashion.
It's the same concept regarding terms of familiarity. The terms of endearment that your beloved can get away with calling you don't mean the same when coming from someone else. They tend to be regarded as sarcastic and/or condescending. When your beloved says, "Sweetie, honey, baby, pussycat," it doesn't mean the same thing as when the used car salesmen lets loose with that phrase.
This is more easily seen in languages that have the formal and familiar versions of "you." The use of the familiar implies a social relationship. To get away with using "nigger" requires that a social background must be established to support the use of the word. It is difficult for someone outside the group to demonstrate that social background in general.
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