yenmor writes:
Here is why my 2 statements can coexist together.
...where? All you did was describe his family. I don't care about your (or his) personal life. It was just a question.
So, how exactly would you describe such a family?
I don't care as it has nothing to do with what I'm trying to ask.
Am I not allowed to call them a white trash family?
Again, I don't care.
Here's what I said again:
quote:
From Message 5:
yenmor writes:
We are, after all, the worst evaluator of ourselves. People with stinky breaths don't think they have stinky breaths.
From Message 34:
yenmor writes:
Anyway, I also get cranky when people call me judgmental. They have no idea that when I say what I say, it's literal and not a put down. It's not me exaggerating or calling them names. It's exactly how it is literally.
Which is it?
Are you immune to being "the worst evaluator of yourself"? Or is it possible that what you think you're judging as "exactly how it is literally" could be interpreted another way?
I don't care about the subject you were expressing these ideas about. It could be a shitty family, it could be a great family, it could be an average family, it could be licorice sticks.
I'm just interested in the two ideas you're claiming to hold about yourself.
On one hand you seem to claim that people are the worst evaluators of themselves... it is difficult for us to determine if we're being objective or not. It is difficult to identify when we're wrong. This seems very reasonable and mature.
On the other hand, you seem to claim that when you describe something... it's "exactly literal" and not judgemental in any way.
It seems contradictory... which is it? Are you able to be perfectly objective all the time? Or is it possible that you make mistakes?
I'm not asking you to defend your boyfriend, or validate your feelings about his family or worry about being seen as correct or good-enough or smart... I really don't care. The situation may be screwed up, but things can always be worse and/or always be better. This isn't some competition to show how difficult or righteous your life is. I just don't care. We all have our own troubles... some will be lessor than yours, others will be greater... and you won't always be the one to judge such anyway.
What I do care about is the question I asked and the one you haven't answered yet.
You seem to be claiming two very contradictory ideas, and I'm wondering how you keep both of them in your head.
It's perfectly valid if you don't care to answer my question. I'm not going to hunt you down or anything. You're free to simply not answer it if you don't want to for whatever reason. But, really, you haven't addressed it at all yet so I don't know if you don't understand me or if you don't want to answer.