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Jumped Up Chimpanzee
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Message 1 of 2 (551813)
03-24-2010 11:12 AM


I find the whole concept of marriage utterly bizarre.
I’m not really talking about marriage as a religious institution. If you think there’s a man with a big stick looking over you and he needs to approve everything you do in your life, then within that rationale I guess it makes sense that he has to approve your relationship. Good luck with that.
But what does marriage mean outside of a religious context?
It still seems to be normal even for non-religious people to get married. There is still a huge social pressure on people to do so. Why? What does it actually mean to be married?
The strangest thing of all is that marriage is often proposed as the ultimate attainment in life, and yet there’s normally no explanation given as to exactly what it is or why it’s so important. We’re just supposed to take it for granted that we have to aim to get married; like it’s of the utmost importance.
Are you still single?
Why have you never got married?
It’s such a waste that you never got married!
A waste???!!!???
A waste for whom, exactly?
Here’s how I look at it. If I am ever fortunate enough to meet someone with whom I wish to share my life, and they feel the same about me (may any god help them ), then it will be a no-brainer. We will share our lives together.
But I cannot imagine that I would ever feel that I would need to get such a relationship approved and formally rubber-stamped by anyone else. And even if I did consider that I ought to seek approval for some peculiar reason, not only would I not consider consulting some nutter in a frock who believes in an invisible man in the sky, I would be even more unlikely to seek the approval of some bumptious government official! Why would anyone do that? It's the strangest thing. What the fuck has it got to do with them?
And what’s the legal contract all about? If 2 people seek to sign a contract binding them together, is it not a sign that they don’t really trust each other? Doesn’t it defeat the whole idea that they are truly loving, faithful and committed?
And then there's this whole Ooh, look at us! Look we’re getting married! Look how successful our lives are! Buy us presents! bullshit. No I don’t want to go to your fucking engagement party or your wedding reception or hang about in a church or some dreary municipal building all day in a ridiculous suit. That’s a waste of a perfectly good weekend. If you want to live together forever then just live together forever. Stop making such a bleeding fuss about it! It’s your business and nobody else’s.
Don’t get me wrong; I am happy for you. But a firm handshake is all that’s required.

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03-24-2010 11:21 AM


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