I asked them if they'd date and marry a man who they grew up with in the neighborhood if he was the perfect man of their dream, and they all gave me the same "ewww, that's nasty" answer.
BS. Total BS. Are you kidding me? EVERY woman would want that! The problem is few women have that oppurtunity or he didn't want her and now it's to late. They aren't going to admit any of this to anyone, but deep down they know. What good is it to dwell on what didn't happen? Or that the "dream" didn't come true?
Have you thought that both these answers might be wrong. Maybe she doesn't want to marry him because he knows secrets about her. What about the time he caught her sniffing glue behind the bike sheds. Or what about the time her dress got ripped on a tree branch as they both ran from a dog and she had to scuttle home naked whilst he roared with laughter throughout the journey. Who would want to marry that?