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Demosthenes Fan
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Message 1 of 6 (214610)
06-06-2005 4:19 AM


Hello everyone, it’s been awhile since I have posted here, lately I have been lurking, sitting back and enjoying the debates. But now I write this with a very broken heart, and seeking some insight from many of you, because I truly feel that most of you are the most rational, intellectual, and honest people I have had a chance to watch.
Many changes have taken place in the last three days. My twelve year old
son was hit and killed by a car on Tuesday night. He has
been my beacon, my anchor, everything that has given me purpose to
live. And now, I feel like my heart has stopped beating. I have a
nine year old daughter, who I love deeply, but I am afraid that this will
rob her of the kind of love and affection that she would have received
before this happened. I don’t know if anyone here has ever had to deal
with a situation like this, so I am not sure how to even react. But I
guess my question is this; how do I keep from collapsing inward, when
he needs me, I can’t smile or laugh. How do I reassure her that I love
her as much as I love my son?
I will be checking this every evening, so please have patience with me if it takes me a day or so to reply to you, also sorry about the rambling, I am just too emotional to really put it all into words.
Details modified to maintain anonymity. --Admin
This message has been edited by Admin, 06-06-2005 09:34 AM

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Message 2 of 6 (214629)
06-06-2005 8:10 AM


Thread moved here from the Proposed New Topics forum.
Demo, I really don't know what to say. This is every parent's worst nightmare.
I understand your fears concerning your son, but I do think that after the shock of your loss lessens a bit you will find yourself turning to him rather than shutting him out.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
This message has been edited by AdminAsgara, 06-06-2005 07:13 AM

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Message 3 of 6 (214630)
06-06-2005 8:38 AM
Reply to: Message 2 by AdminAsgara
06-06-2005 8:10 AM


AdminAsgara,
It there a possibility to merge the two threads concerning Demosthenes Fan's message?
And would a 'sticky' be a possible feature?
Thanks,
Parasomnium.

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Message 4 of 6 (214631)
06-06-2005 8:43 AM
Reply to: Message 3 by Parasomnium
06-06-2005 8:38 AM


I would love to Para (I didnt' see the other thread when I moved Demo's post), but there isn't really a merge option or a sticky option right now.
Charles did quote Demo's entire post in msg 2 of your thread, hopefully that will help. For now, I am going to close this thread and let the help and sympathy continue in the longer thread.
AbE link to new thread - For Demosthenes Fan
Demosthenes Fan, I am so sorry for all this rigamarole with your thread.
This message has been edited by AdminAsgara, 06-06-2005 07:45 AM

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Message 5 of 6 (214632)
06-06-2005 8:47 AM
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06-06-2005 8:43 AM


Thanks Asgara.
Thanks.

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roxrkool
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Message 6 of 6 (214668)
06-06-2005 12:59 PM
Reply to: Message 1 by Demosthenes Fan
06-06-2005 4:19 AM


Oh no. What a horrendous tragedy you and your family must face.
I have a child of my own and while I can imagine the pain you must be feeling, I cannot truly understand your devastation. I do know there is no deeper love than one feels for their child and so losing a child means losing a part of your soul forever.
Having known people who have lost a child, I know that you will never get over the loss. It will stay with you forever, but the pain can lessen with time.
Let your daughter see your pain and talk to her about it honestly. And get her to talk about her own pain. By sharing your pain, and especially your affection with your daughter, she will heal you, and you her. Don't make the mistake of keeping your emotions inside thinking you must be strong for others. Let them flow free and clear.
You and your family are in my thoughts. I am so, so sorry for your loss.

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