Hi Lam,
I believe that what you are experiencing now with that person in your class is not love.
When people talk about feeling love for a person that they don't even know, or have only known for a short period of time, they demonstrate a misconception of what love is.
Oftentimes, what people think is love is, in reality, a physical attraction.
Crashfrog also mentioned respect for a person and having fun with a person. These, I believe, are not love at all.
When a person's beliefs change, when they are not fun to be around, and when they don't look so attractive then we are in a dilemma. If these were the basis for establishing a relationship or a marriage, then our relationships will, inevitably, be fragile.
I agree with 1.61803 that we
choose to love. With the definition of love as an act, as I stated before, we can love anyone. We can love someone for a lifetime.
When someone says, "I don't love you anymore", what they often mean is: "I don't find you attractive anymore, I don't respect you anymore, I don't find you to be much fun anymore,
OR I found someone
more attractive,
more deserving of respect, or
more fun than you".
The reason we take interest in a person in the first place is, typically, because we find them physically attractive. Then, we look for other characteristics that we consider important.
If we, at one time or another, found someone physically attractive, then, barring some drastic changes, we will always find them attractive. The problem sometimes is that we may find someone else
more attractive. This is inevitable. There is always somebody smarter, prettier, better (in some way), than our current partner. It is when we encounter this person that our relationship/marriage is put to the test.
The outcome of this test depends largely on our definition of love, our morals, religious beliefs, etc.
With the definition of love as an act, which I believe I have shown to be reasonable in my first post, a statement such as:
"I don't love you anymore"
doesn't even make sense.
It's not that you don't love a person anymore, you have
chosen not to love that person anymore. And, you can just as easily choose to start loving that person, at any given time.