In a now-closed thread, Rosie Cotton writes about infertile parents:
Do we really have to go into this again?
They aren't technically their children... If it ain't your egg, or your wife's egg, it ain't really your child. And them being adoptive parent's doesn't make it so that I'm convinced that they replenish the Earth. Somebody else bore those children... even if they parent them, they didn't bear them. Them being willing to parent them is a wonderful thing, empty out those under-budget South American orphanages, but they aren't technically their children.
Clearly, Rosie doesn't believe that adoptive parents, or parents that overcome infertility via egg/sperm donation or surrogate wombs, are "real" parents.
It's a big board, so we've almost certainly got members who are themselves adopted, or are adoptive parents, or have employed these strategies to overcome the infertility of one or both partners.
How do you feel, then, that Rosie has so sweepingly delegitimized you as a parent? How do you feel about the fact that, no matter how much you love your children, no matter how much work and sacrifice went into their rearing, in the eyes of people like Rosie, none of it matters?
Who are the parents, Rosie? I'd say they're the ones that raise the child, love the child, nurture the child, work in the child's best interest. Trivialities about sperm/egg are simply irrelevant to the status of people as parents. Your post displays an amazingly callous attitude to families every bit as legitimate and loving as yours.
Not "their children", indeed.