It still seems to me that you are using "lust" too broadly.
Well that could be for you. But that's potato patato. I do believe the best lovers, even while making love, will experience great lust.
The difference between people that just have sex and those that "make love" is not the degree of lust, but the degree of love involved.
Lust describes the physical portion of attraction, regardless of other forms of attraction.
If you disagree then you simply have a different, and probably valid, definitional set.
holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)