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Author Topic:   The Three Minute SOAPBOX:
Ben!
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Message 23 of 73 (271993)
12-23-2005 11:34 AM
Reply to: Message 1 by Phat
11-03-2005 4:56 AM


Do unto others...
I've been spending time with my family during this holiday season, and I've noticed how much trouble there is in getting along. I thought the observations I made might be true not only in families, but between people in general.
People don't seem to understand what type of image they portray. They don't seem to understand how they would understand themselves if they looked at themself like another person. I think we are all blinded by understanding how people interpret our actions and words by the fact that we are ... ourselves.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you
It doesn't work unless you really have an understanding of how people understand your actions. It's not about "what you do" in the objective sense, but more about "how people interpret what you do."
How do we get a more realistic perspective on ourselves? I really don't know. There are lots of ad-hoc ways that each of us do it to some degree. But for a more general, robust way... I don't know.
This I do know. Giving is not about me, but about you. Putting a focus on me and what I do, rather than what the other is getting is putting a focus on how I see my actions, not on how you see it. That plays exactly into the hands of this fault. So for now, maybe it's best to say
Allow others to receive what you yourself would want to have.
or maybe, to make it more active,
Make sure others receive from you what you yourself would want to have from them.
or, maybe,
Listen to others as you would force them to listen to you.
I don't know. Philosophical ramblings are for kids, and each day I'm more ready to let go. The world is the world, and you should not ask of people what you strongly believe they cannot provide. Idealisms are constructs, and should be judged from a realist's perspective.
But that's another 3 minute soap box
Ben

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