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Author Topic:   General discussion of moderation procedures: The Consequtive Consecution
Silent H
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Message 180 of 302 (277547)
01-09-2006 12:25 PM
Reply to: Message 164 by Adminnemooseus
01-07-2006 4:37 PM


Re: Sometimes you just have to declare a topic to be a terminal mess
We have at least two situations where two members are apparently having trouble understanding/following what the other is saying (the Holmes/Rrhain thing being the other).
Once again this is 100% NOT what has occured in my situation. There is no question about what he said. He accused me of saying and doing things which I simply did not do or say. I think it is hard pressed to claim he does not actually understand what I said, since I have said it to him plainly to correct any possible error and he still repeated the charge as if nothing had been said.
People get upset, and admins are expected to somehow step in and make sense of it all.
In this case NO admin was expected to do anything. I mean it was surprising that none did but I never asked for nor expected that they would. I acted to solve the situation with the expectation that no action was forthcoming.
People (that is me) became confused when suddenly an admin came in and cut off my solution, with an inaccurate insult, and provided me no real solution. At the very least the suggested one could only net me another bit of censure.
People (that is me) got upset, when I came to this forum to ask it be reopened, explaining my reasoning, and got nothing but conflicting and insulting answers.
People (that is me) got more upset, when I essentially junked that and tried to simply get a solution for what I needed to do... which was NEVER a statement of who is right or wrong... and I continued to get nothing but dead air.
I think the only admins I trust on this site are you and ben... and you I believe are the overworked one (well percy is but for efforts outside moderation).
Is it too much to ask to not have an explanation of what I should do to rebut multiple claims of wrongdoing, which I can disprove with evidence, but would be OT in the thread where the claims were made, and the poster is likely to use them again in the future?
And is it too much to ask to have admins explain a decision, and if someone presents a reasonable argument for their actions, get more than a flippant reassertion? Maybe something not condescending?
I'm not blaming you for this, and I know you don't own the other mods, but if you'd perhaps suggest this that'd be great. I was pretty miffed to come back after a weekend break to find no suggestion of a practical solution... and yet another characterization of my dispute as being something that requested admin involvement. It only got bad because an admin stuck his nose in where it was not requested and not required. Okay sorry sorry, it wasn't you. You're cool.
This message has been edited by holmes, 01-09-2006 12:27 PM

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)

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Silent H
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Message 188 of 302 (277695)
01-10-2006 6:02 AM
Reply to: Message 181 by AdminBen
01-09-2006 12:58 PM


Re: Sometimes you just have to declare a topic to be a terminal mess
I guess when we're discussing solutions "behind closed doors", we should make sure to let you know.
Yes, that would be great. Otherwise it just looks like someone is being ignored. Thanks for letting me know.
I understand you didn't appreciate AdminJar's decision. He did what he thought was appropriate. If it was me, I probably would have taken the same action. I think you are right to ask what the appropriate means is.
Clarification: I did not UNDERSTAND Jar's decision. It did take me by suprise, but it was mainly my not understanding which provoked my post in this forum. It looked to me like he was simply saying "You should have done it the way I would do it". I saw no justification for closure given evc guidelines and a long history of precedent on what is okay/not okay to post. Of course policy could be changing.
What I did not APPRECIATE was the mischaracterization and condescending language within the decision, compounded by the same treatment once I got here.
Thank you for being reasonable, and apologies to minnemooseus once again for ranting.

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)

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Silent H
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Message 222 of 302 (280879)
01-23-2006 5:38 AM


Any decisions?
Well its been a while, and I have now had my position misrepped and quite insultingly (it would seem beyond forum guidelines) by another poster.
I have replied within that thread to defend myself, but it appears I will be facing another situation where a person continually misreps my stated position.
Any decision on how people are supposed to appropriately deal with such situations?

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)

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Silent H
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Message 225 of 302 (280955)
01-23-2006 1:39 PM
Reply to: Message 224 by Admin
01-23-2006 1:24 PM


Re: Any decisions?
Hey, why not talk to me? I asked the question, because I had been told earlier that admins were working on an answer, and it seems I am faced with potentially the same issue.
I don't need someone to resolve anything for me or decide who is "right", I need to know what I am allowed to do in response to someone who makes repeated misrepresentations of my position.
It seems to me I have a choice of responding OT within the thread to make a correction, or to create a new thread to handle the issue (especially if it ends up popping up later somewhere else).
Has there been a decision?
This message has been edited by holmes, 01-23-2006 01:40 PM

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"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)

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Silent H
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Message 228 of 302 (280978)
01-23-2006 3:01 PM
Reply to: Message 227 by Admin
01-23-2006 2:16 PM


Re: Any decisions?
When someone misrepresents your views in a thread just go ahead and correct them in the same thread. If the misrepresentation is off-topic, then simply say they're wrong about your views but because it's off-topic you can't get into the details, then move on. Moderators are volunteers whose time is limited, so it really helps when members possess some conflict resolution skills of their own.
Ahem... and then they do it again, and again, and again? Yeah, your time is limited and so is mine and I do have resolution skills. My resolution was to create a new thread containing the debate that would be started and just point to it.
This is something others can do if they find themselves in the same situation of any oft repeated argument, not just a misrep position. Others have stated that is an issue.
If there is something wrong with that method, please explain what it is. Otherwise correcting them in thread and just saying "you are wrong but I can't get into details" does not cut it. It is an issue of repetition by SOMEONE ELSE. Its the OTHER PERSON who does not drop it.
Frankly I'm not happy with being portrayed as someone without resolution skills when the problem arose when a mod cut off my attempt at resolution, there has been no valid explanation why, or what can take its place. The one resolution suggested was essentially a mirror of my own, only requiring mod control.

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)

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Silent H
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Joined: 12-11-2002


Message 230 of 302 (281031)
01-23-2006 5:27 PM
Reply to: Message 229 by Admin
01-23-2006 4:50 PM


Re: Any decisions?
I'm afraid I've devoted all the time to this that I can afford.
What irony. I didn't demand that you reply in the first place, it was an open question to anyone available because Ben said an answer was being looked into by admins.
I only asked you after you replied to randman regarding my request, indeed taking a dig at me in it. Pardon me for thinking that meant you might have some time.
You have some very fixed ideas for what will satisfy you
No I don't have a fixed idea. I am telling you why the one you suggested cannot work. It assumes the other poster will stop. I came up with an idea and still have not been told why it would not work, though it was sanctioned.
The other "suggestions" were to wait. I did, and now I am asking. Sheesh.
Perhaps one of the other moderators is willing to devote some time to your issues. AdminBen was interested at one point, perhaps he'll pick this up.
Yeah, gee I wonder if maybe that's who told me an answer was being worked on, and so I dropped in to ask if it had been come up with? Hmmmmm.
Here's a suggestion: If you don't have time to deal with an issue some asks about, or don't know the answer, how about NOT replying to someone that replies to them, especially with a dig at the person who asked the question.
It creates this illusion that you have time to deal with something, or care. Now it looks like what you care about is defending yourself and your pals from criticism (rand's post), and dropping insults instead of solutions (you've insulted me in every post without once dealing with what I actually said).

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Silent H
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Message 250 of 302 (281459)
01-25-2006 8:37 AM


cool and calm discussion of issues
I'm going to start by apologizing for whatever sarcasm of mine created an air of "disrespect" or "inconducivity" to my more recent posts. I am also going to apologize for not being as specific as I could have been (moose's suggestion of creating links is a good one) such that people may not have understood exactly what I was discussing.
I will strive to be as clear as possible and without a trace of sarcasm. There are a couple problems intertwined here. I think they should be examined carefully and thoughtfully.
The first is a problem with moderation, and unfortunately it influences everything else. There is an air of defensiveness which is not helping honest questions and criticisms to be dealt with in a fair way. I realize that mods are voluntary and may not have time to get to everything. But when mods do, it does not seem that it is always in a way that is "conducive" to a resolution.
For example, I began discussion of an issue with this post. With the exception of possibly the title (which I meant as comical) and the last line (which was an accurate assessment from my POV) there is nothing in that post which could realistically be interpreted as disrespectful. This was followed by a second, third, and fourth post with no intention of lack of respect, and none that I can find that could be read that way. The response I was getting from a moderator was inconsistent with the decision I was asking about, and laced with some insulting language (the first practically a threat). Thus those following posts showed restraint.
Only once I became upset verbally did I start getting a larger response, though no actual address to the problem I was discussing. The result was a feeling that no one was interested in actually resolving an issue, and instead only in arguing in a defensive nature against perceptions of wrongdoing.
I then tried to erase the board and just offer suggestions in post #142. People should note that that received absolutely no responses at all.
I actually had abandoned the topic after being told admins were working on an answer. I gave it no thought until the issue appeared to be coming up in a totally different thread. So I became curious and asked if there had been a resolution. I received no reply. Yet when randman wrote a sarcastic response to me, he got a response. When I tried to refocus discussion to my question, I was treated to unflattering language and suggestions which did not bear on the problem I was discussing. This again created an impression that resolution was not as much an interest or worthy of time as debating wrongdoing.
After my suspension, randman went to defend me and criticize moderation and the results can be seen: moderators have time to engage in personal debates, where none could find time to deal strictly with the issue I raised (in an originally wholly respectful way). This gave truth to what randman suggested originally, and what he later pointed out as mods began debating him.
When criticism or questions are raised, whether it is valid or invalid, there appears to be a "circle the wagons" approach to the person, rather than cutting to the chase and focusing on what procedural rule might be best for the issue at hand.
The second issue has also been demonstrated well in subsequent posts after my suspension. Jar has raised the issue of misrepresentation, and indeed repeated misrepresentation, and this is ironic given that he was the one who remonstrated me for the method I employed and so why I came looking for a solution.
Randman was not correct in thinking I was worried about real world retribution, though that could very well happen I suppose (though I wouldn't think Jar would). He was right however about something being a permanent record with my position being wholly misrepresented, and additionally no one caring until the same was done to a mod.
Misrepresentation is an issue that people, clearly even mods, don't enjoy and feel the desire to correct. It is more complex when it is done by people referring to issues from other threads, and repeat such behavior. Repetition of references to other debates(whether misreps or not) is a problem which others seem to be implying about randman, and pink backed me as being a problem in general.
It appears then that this is a real problem that requires a solution. I have not said that my way was the only way, nor have I tried to make that case. All I did was try to come up with a method on my own, only to face censure, without a replacement offered. All I am asking for is a replacement. None have been given, or supported when I raised a follow up question.
Jar in these last posts appears to have defied his own suggestion to me when faced with the same situation, and the admin is apparently unsatisfied with the suggestion he gave me (as that is exactly what Jar did here).
Okay so that's it. If no one has time or interest in dealing with these problems, or "perceived" problems, then please don't respond. And if someone wants to respond please do not do so with accusations or implications about me personally. I am really just trying to make debate flow better.
(edit to fix links - AdminNWR)
This message has been edited by AdminNWR, 01-25-2006 07:50 AM

holmes
"If you're going to kick authority in the teeth, you might as well use two feet. " (K.Richards)

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Silent H
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Message 257 of 302 (282114)
01-28-2006 6:10 AM
Reply to: Message 255 by Parasomnium
01-27-2006 3:13 PM


Re: Moderating
I just wanted to say, I have read it three times and it still makes me laugh.

holmes
"What you need is sustained outrage...there's far too much unthinking respect given to authority." (M.Ivins)

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Silent H
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Message 258 of 302 (282116)
01-28-2006 6:47 AM
Reply to: Message 256 by randman
01-28-2006 3:18 AM


Re: nosey's attack
Hopefully this will be taken as well meant...
allowing Nosey to continually use his mod position to harass non-evos is wrong and reflects very poorly on this board.
It is apparent that several mods here are unfair and yes you are getting your (un)fair share of abuse. This is not just happening to you, and I mentioned it a while back (which I guess put me on some shit list). Yes this does reflect poorly on this board... but only for those that care about such things. Since the majority are not being treated unfairly, and can get a laugh at the expense of those who are, it is unlikely to change.
In this particular case Ned does not seem off base. Yeah, he could have addressed Rev first, but your post was simply a short and angry challenge. Its not like Ned simply suspended you without warning, he was suggesting what not to do again, and my guess is that would include tone of your message. It could have been written with less hostility to make the same point.
As far as the general trend of behavior here, I think in the end you are simply going to have to give up on expecting fair treatment and asking for it. After all if they are unfair, what is the point of making an appeal to them? It just asks for more brutality from an abuser.
You'll need to effect your own behavior, posting or not (and be content with whichever choice), because they will not review their own. Make a decision if you want to stay in a place like this and post within whatever skewed limits are set on you, or leave because there is no point in being treated poorly. In a way its sort of liberating when you come to terms with the fact that you will see no justice, and just have to get along or get out on your own terms.
However, if you do continue to post, just remember that sometimes the mods are right, thus you SHOULDN'T dismiss all of what they say as pure bias (for example this case), even if it does happen. Take a deep breath and look at what is being asked. Make a choice to do it or not, regardless of why it is being asked.

holmes
"What you need is sustained outrage...there's far too much unthinking respect given to authority." (M.Ivins)

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Silent H
Member (Idle past 5846 days)
Posts: 7405
From: satellite of love
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Message 285 of 302 (282276)
01-29-2006 5:32 AM
Reply to: Message 261 by AdminNWR
01-28-2006 12:22 PM


for those who feel immoderate behavior
You are not on any such list that I know about.
Heheheh... it was metaphorical, not literal.
Pretense of their objectivity to the contrary, it is pretty clear I am on a personal list of such nature with more than one mod around here. And I know at least one has not been happy with me from years before you got here.
I'm not happy with the recent violations of forum guideline 10 by... well this isn't the point. Like I said to rand (which is why I said it), sometimes its liberating once it is all out in the open and one knows where one stands. You either get comfortable posting with no expectations of anything substantial from moderation, or leave.
It beats trying to explain something repeatedly, or complain repeatedly, which only brings everyone down. For those who feel put upon by mods, rightly or wrongly (and sometimes a mix of both), its easier and healthier to just ignore them. Otherwise one is (if correct) simply feeding an abuser.
Not wanting to discuss anything in this further. Just clarifying what I meant, especially as a suggestion for those that might feel the same.

holmes
"What you need is sustained outrage...there's far too much unthinking respect given to authority." (M.Ivins)

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