Since my name is being cited in posts which seem to equate rat with nemjug, I feel I must speak up.
Rat is no more my friend than is nemjug. But I've paid at least passing attention to rat since he came here, and over that fairly long period of time I've seen considerable change in him. I don't have nearly the time to read everything he posts (if I've missed something I should see, someone please point it out), but I've read enough to know that he still says thing I find insulting. However, even at his worst, his bite is much less piercing than nemjug's. That wasn't always true.
I see potential in rat, maybe enough that one day he might earn my trust to the point that I'd call him friend, but even here and now he at least finds a way to make his anti-gay statements much less deeply insulting. I wouldn't lump him in with nemjug quite so eagerly as some folks are doing.
W.W.E.D.?