Dr. Adequate writes:
Talking to someone, even if you raise your voice and use naughty words, is not an act of aggression.
It sure can be. I've witnessed many instances where naughty words and raising your voice is very aggressive. Where did I witness that again? Oh yeah, every morning on the subway.
OK, maybe I'm stereotyping, but I assume that you're a "Na'Yahker!"
I loved that scene in the second Hulk movie, with Ed Norton and the inestimable Liv Taylor. He had to constantly think of how to keep from getting ampped up into turning green and really big. Go through the subway? Too dangerous! Then, realizing that a subway ride was too dangerous, they took a taxi and she was left absolutely livid while he, The Hulk, was trying to calm her down as she was also lashing out at him. Classic!
OK, defense or aggression?
Desmond Morris' second book was "The Human Zoo." What happens when we artificially crowd animals together? All kinds of aberrant behavior and all kinds of problems from overcrowding. The premise of Morris' book was that we don't have an "urban jungle", but rather a "human zoo".
Solutions to situations in a small town must necessarily be different than in a big city. In a small town, everybody knows everybody else (I served in a state, North Dakota, where not only did everybody know everybody else, but most of them were cousins to whatever degree), but in the big city everybody is anonymous to everybody else.
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