dwise1 writes:
Children care nothing for history. Old people (like me) care greatly for history. When children, such as yourself, destroy history, then when later they care greatly for history and that is no longer any history, then it is their fault and nobody else's.
Thank you for your fascinating post--I particularly appreciate the interlocking stories: my personal belief is that human understanding requires narrative. Your essay is a brilliant example.
But I have to disagree with the quote above. Nothing our children do is absolutely their fault "and nobody else's."
We can't have civilization without individual responsibility, but that doesn't mean we should accept the fiction that we are completely self-determined creatures. We are not. We are products of contingent, random and arbitrary causes--some of which are the faults in others.
Understanding comes dearly. The more we understand our origins, the more responsible for ourselves we become, and the more compassion we must grant our fellow flawed creatures.
The alternative is bitter isolation.
quote:
This Be The Verse
--Philip Larkin
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.
"If you can keep your head while those around you are losing theirs, you can collect a lot of heads."