I am only understanding that a gravity bend would speed up anything with mass but not change the distance it has to travel
The distance is calculated differently in GR. In ordinary flat Euclidean space the shortest distance between two points is the 3D version of the Pythagorean theorem:
distance = sqrt(x
2 + y
2 + z
2)
In relativistic space-time, with the "t" coordinate added, the formula is different:
distance = sqrt(x
2 + y
2 + z
2 - t
2)
The minus sign on the "t" coordinate leads to all sorts of interesting stuff.