Many, many (o so many) years ago, I was invited to sit on a panel of teenagers discussing "Teen Morality" at a PTA meeting in our local high school before several hundred people. I eagerly accepted.
In the mid 60s conservative bastion of Indiana, all the parents and teachers wanted to discuss was sex. I refused, suggesting that sexual mores should be discussed more broadly as a human issue, not a teen one.
"Why are you all so obsessed with teen sexuality?" I asked.
"Certainly none of my fellow panel members are adulterers, while there are almost certainly some adulterers in an adult audience this size, and likely some fornicators, too.
So let's discuss what concerns me and my peers as we prepare to join your adult world. Let's talk about war. Let's talk about civil rights and racism. Let's talk about poverty and political corruption. Besides, if you haven't persuaded your daughters to keep me out of their pants by now, all the panel discussions in the world won't help."
My poor mother tried to melt into the floor.
I suggested that their desire to control every decision made by their teen children worked against the development of a "moral sense":
"You develop your 'moral sense' by making your own decisions and living with the consequences. None of you want to stand back and let that happen."
A particularly reactionary teacher challenged me, asking, "So kids should be able to decide whether or not to eat their spinach, and then learn from the malnutritional consequences?"
"Well, sir," I replied, "do you eat anything you don't like? Are there no green vegetables as nutritious as spinach that the child might actually like? Your concern is not with morality, but with command and control. You will cram spinach down that child's throat, and they likely will never eat green vegetables again. Is that your idea of doing what is best for the child and their moral sense? Perhaps you should give some thought to what your real motivations are in that scenario."
Hee hee. Great fun.
Unfortunately, I was a freshman and had 3.5 years to go in that school, including a class with the Great Reactionary. What a long strange trip it was...
AbE: Apologies for drifting so far OT.
This message has been edited by Omnivorous, 11-04-2005 01:11 PM