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Rei Member (Idle past 7034 days) Posts: 1546 From: Iowa City, IA Joined: |
quote: Yes, it's ornate. So was what gladiators and roman troops on parade wore: Even ignoring that armor itself is rather butch (it implies a more aggressive, tough person), the decor is not feminine.
quote:quote: ... and?
quote: You've got to be kidding. A female warrior, clad in full armor and in combat, not butch?
quote: Gee, could it possibly be the full body armor, the taking part in physical combat... what's next, are you going to describe female weight lifters as being femmes?
quote: That's almost an oxymoron. Feminine != aggressive. Warriors are aggressive.
quote: You probably think that the Romans were flaming, then. ------------------"Illuminant light, illuminate me." [This message has been edited by Rei, 12-02-2003]
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crashfrog Member (Idle past 1488 days) Posts: 19762 From: Silver Spring, MD Joined: |
You've got to be kidding. A female warrior, clad in full armor and in combat, not butch? Of course. Why would wearing armor affect your charisma score? If you put Nicole Kidman in goalie's gear, she doesn't get butch. If you put Tyne Daly in a sundress, she's still butch. Butchness isn't what you're wearing. It's what you look like. Duh.
Gee, could it possibly be the full body armor, the taking part in physical combat... what's next, are you going to describe female weight lifters as being femmes? No. Are you going to describe all female athletes as being butch? That's kind of what it comes down to. Where I'm from, women can put on armor, bend a bow, and wield a sword, and there's nothing especially butch about it.
Feminine != aggressive. Not where I'm from. Maybe the ladies are a little tougher here in Minnesota.
You probably think that the Romans were flaming, then. Why, nipples on the armor and such? Maybe I'm not a person that makes sweeping generalizations about people's sexuality based on what they're wearing? Just a thought.
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Rei Member (Idle past 7034 days) Posts: 1546 From: Iowa City, IA Joined: |
quote:quote: Ah. So, to you, butch is some sort of degrading term.
quote: She becomes more butch in appearence. Look, do you know what "butch" means? A woman dresses in a dress with long hair and a purse, she's going to look femmy. A woman dresses in work jeans, a white undershirt and a flannel, she's going to look butch. Anywhere in between, you'll probably end up with a bit of a soft butch. OOC, have you ever been to a gay club, or hung out with any lesbians or F2Ms?
quote:quote: Athleticism is one thing that makes a person appear more butch. Short hair is another. Style of dress is another. There are many traits that lead to a person looking butch. And, contrary to what you're considering, the appearance of the face is not among them (unless the woman is using makeup or something, which is extremely femmy). Many butch gals have quite attractive faces.
quote: (sarcasm)Odd, I've never been out of this solar system. (/sarcasm) Seriously, though, to remain appearing equally femmy in full armor and wielding a sword, you'd need to hold the sword like you're afraid of it, and wear low cut armor, have long hair flowing out the back, etc to compensate. "Butch" appearence involves outward features and actions that are stereotypically masculine. Armor and weaponry is most definitely a stereotypically masculine trait (even more than short hair, really). Would you consider a woman wearing a tuxedo still equally femmy? What about one working on a transmission? These are all butch things. And again, I have to emphasize: Butch is not an insult! And a woman who normally behaves or appears quite feminine can behave or appear butch from time to time - few people remain *completely* pigeonholed into a stereotype.
quote:quote: *blink* *blink* Since when is "aggressiveness" considered a feminine trait anywhere in the US?
quote:quote: I wasn't accusing you of that - you're (probably inadvertently) changing the direction of conversation . I'll restate, in a direct question: Just a second ago you were arguing that elaborate, ornate armor is feminine. Now your stance is...? ------------------"Illuminant light, illuminate me." [This message has been edited by Rei, 12-02-2003]
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Rrhain Member Posts: 6351 From: San Diego, CA, USA Joined: |
Brian responds to me:
First, a clarification. Brian quotes me as saying:
Excuse me? I seem to recall an admonishment to AZ about "yid" and "nig." "Gay"? I see those words as offensive. I did not say that last.
quote: (*sigh*) Logical error: Equivocation. The use of the word "gay" as a descriptor is not the same use of the word "gay" as an insult. You do understand the difference between saying, "I am gay," and, "That's so gay," yes? In the former, there is no indication that there is something wrong with being gay. In the latter, that's the point: There is something wrong with being gay. The problem is not the word in and of itself. It's the usage. Insulting people by calling them "gay" indicates that one thinks that there is something wrong with being gay. Take, for example, the word "crap." It can be a reference to excrement or it can be a reference to a dice game. The word, in and of itself, isn't problematic. The context in which it is used, however, determines the intent. And by the way...what makes you think I'm not gay.
quote: But what was the point in calling it a "gay" knight? The last time I asked you that, you said it was an acronym. What is this acronym?
quote: Then what was the point in calling it a "gay" knight?
quote: Don't be silly. Surely you're not saying that because people can let insults roll off their back that there wasn't an insult in the first place? That because people don't let it get to them that the person doing the obnoxious behaviour wasn't being obnoxious?
quote: What makes you think I'm not gay? Besides, you're committing the same logical error of equivocation. The problem isn't the word. It's the usage. "I am gay" does not mean the same thing as "That's so gay!"
quote:quote: Ri-i-i-i-ight! You really expect us to believe that? Where's the other woman?
quote: Ri-i-i-i-ight! You really expect us to believe that? Hint: I'm not saying you don't do that. I'm questioning whether or not you really expect anybody to believe that.
quote: Could be...surely you're not saying that a person who is all for equality under the law couldn't possibly still want to use his personal squick factor without being called on it.
quote: And you know that because of what, precisely? Just how many Asian archer-women do you know who wear Valkyrie-style helmets?
quote:quote: Depends on how they said it. If they said it out of curiosity or because they just happened to think so, who cares? But if they said it out of some concept that there was something wrong with being gay, then I would be offended...not because I think there's something wrong with being gay but because I'm offended by bigotry. You're committing the same logical error of equivocation. The problem isn't the word. It's the usage. But you haven't answered my question: What makes you think I'm not gay?
quote: And what, precisely, is "gay" about it?
quote: Ri-i-i-i-ight. Where's the other woman in the picture?
quote: "Choice"? Excuse me? ------------------Rrhain WWJD? JWRTFM!
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crashfrog Member (Idle past 1488 days) Posts: 19762 From: Silver Spring, MD Joined: |
Ah. So, to you, butch is some sort of degrading term. In so much as it can be used to denigrate a woman who doesn't meet society's standards for femininity, yes, it is. I realize that in the GLBT community it's a slang term for lesbians who act "mannish", if you will.
OOC, have you ever been to a gay club, or hung out with any lesbians or F2Ms? I know a few lesbians, but they're not exactly into the whole gay scene. None of them use "butch" and "femme" like you're using. You're either butch, or you're femme. What you're wearing doesn't make a difference.
Odd, I've never been out of this solar system. You are aware that there's an international community of mediveal/fantasy reenactors, right? That they don armor, shoot arrows, and swordfight as a matter of course, right?
Seriously, though, to remain appearing equally femmy in full armor and wielding a sword, you'd need to hold the sword like you're afraid of it, and wear low cut armor, have long hair flowing out the back, etc to compensate. To you, I guess. I don't personally equate "femininity" with "weakness", not even in stereotype. Surely womanhood isn't that simplistic to you?
Would you consider a woman wearing a tuxedo still equally femmy? This tuxedo? Or this one?
Since when is "aggressiveness" considered a feminine trait anywhere in the US? Like I said, in Minnesota, women are assertive, especially to service personel.
you're changing the direction of conversation No, that's always been the point of the debate. Is a woman who wears armor most likely gay? Not on Planet Earth, or any other. Maybe in your world, though.
Just a second ago you were arguing that elaborate, ornate armor is feminine. And I still am. But you're trying to imply that only a gay man would wear ornate clothing, or that only a lesbian would wear armor. That's not a position I can agree with. Here's a woman in armor:Now why don't you call her butch to her face? Don't be surprised if you sprout feathers, though.
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Rrhain Member Posts: 6351 From: San Diego, CA, USA Joined: |
Rei responds to me:
quote: Ri-i-i-i-ight. Because "dyke" and "fag" have never been used as insults. Hint: I'm aware of the concept of "in-group" lexicons and "out-group" lexicons and how some people can use certain words without a problem that others cannot. Go see a black stand-up comedian playing to a predominantly black audience, and often you'll hear "nigger" flying around left and right and nobody is getting upset. Everybody understands the context and there is no animosity. Change the context though, and even a black person can't say it without being problematic. You can't seriously be saying that "dyke" and "fag" have no negative connotations. Do I really need to show you the studies that "fag" is one of the most commonly heard taunts among school-aged children? But don't take my word for it:
Pennsylvania Newspaper Slams "Fag Forest" By repeatedly using the slur "fag" in both reporting and editorializing on the story, the Citizens' Voice obfuscates this reality. That's from a gay news site, "Gay Today." They seem to have an issue with it. And then there's this from GLAAD:Power 105.1 FM New York:
Power 105.1 FM in New York refused to stop using anti-gay rhetoric on-air during a popular morning drive-time show. After GLAAD's initial outreach to the station, the deejays burst into a spontaneous "fag song" which can be heard here. And this NY Post Ignores Power of Words:
After New York City Police Department (NYPD) Chaplain William Kalaidjian used the word "fag" to describe openly gay NYC Assistant District Attorney Thomas Hickey in an awards presentation on April 30, and then resigned, the usually anti-gay New York Post, true to form, came to his defense. But that's just specific actions against individuals. Here's GLAAD's reference guide they hand out to the media (Defamatory Language to Avoid):
"fag," "faggot," "dyke," "homo," "queen," "she-male," "he-she," "tranny" and similar epithets. The criteria for using these derogatory terms should be the same as those applied to hate words for other groups: they should not be used except in a direct quote which reveals the bias of the person quoted. So that such words are not given credibility in the media, it is preferred that reporters say "the person used an obscene or profane word for a lesbian, gay man or transgender person." Are you telling me that GLAAD isn't representative of any gay people? And let's not forget Dick Armey's infamous "Barney Fag" comment referring to fellow Congressman, Barney Frank, who is openly gay. Surely you aren't saying that there was no malice in that comment, are you? So, since it's been shown that there are gay people who do have a problem with "dyke" and "fag," we're back to my original question: What makes you think I'm not gay?
quote: Yes, I know. The point still remains. She's a character from a fantasy picture. She most likely was not drawn to appeal to lesbians but rather to straight, teenaged boys.
quote: Because when they are usually used, they are not meant kindly. Not even among gay people. Oh, the leading of the Pride parade by Dykes on Bikes receives rounds of applause, but listen to those club kids once they make it back to the circuit parties that night and listen to how they use "dyke"...not nearly as respectful as one could even hope. ------------------Rrhain WWJD? JWRTFM!
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Rei Member (Idle past 7034 days) Posts: 1546 From: Iowa City, IA Joined: |
quote:quote: According to the merriam-webster dictionary (i.e., common usage) it means "very masculine in apperarance or manner". That's not just the GLBT use, that's what it means. It's not a denigration, it's a description. Also, it *is* relative to social standards. That's why it's not an insult - it's a *good* thing not to be a stereotype. You're arguing against the meaning of the word.
quote:quote: No lesbians or F2Ms that I know use butch or femme as an absolute term. None. It is a relative term. Also, if you're referencing social or sexual roles with the use of "butch" or "femme", very few members of the GLBT community use it in that context at all any more.
quote:quote: That doesn't change either A) the standards of feminity and masculinity in this country, and B) the definition of the word.
quote:quote: It's funny that you state that in the same post that you show a picture of... a woman who is in armor, but is wearing low-cut armor, holding herself without a forward posture, and has... long hair! You just proved my point, Crash: that if a woman doesn't compensate, she looks more butch in armor. And once again, I feel compelled to point out that it's not an insult to be described as butch - it means that you're not a stereotype, which is a great thing.
[quote]quote: The left one. The right one is a feminine rip-off of a tuxedo. It's the equivalent of wearing low-cut armor to try and make a woman still look feminine (which the woman in the picture in question distinctly is not wearing).
quote:quote: I seriously doubt if you polled Minnesotans and asked "Is aggressiveness (A) a masculine trait, (B) a feminine trait, or (C) neither", you'd get the vast majority saying (A). Remember, this is the country where as many as 71% of Americans in some parts of the country answered yes to the statement "The father of the family must be the master in his own house." (the average was 49%).
quote: No, that's not the point of the debate. The point of the debate is whether a woman who looks like *that* most likely gay. And I don't see any crowds in the background or indications that it was a "for show" event.
[quote][quote]Just a second ago you were arguing that elaborate, ornate armor is feminine.quote: Ok, then, please answer the question: Were the Romans flaming? Do modern Americans even consider the elaborate armor decor of roman legionaries and gladiators feminine?
quote: Wrong. Not "only". If we operated on guarantees of sexuality, no GLBTs would ever hook up. But there are indicators. A deliberately masculine appearance or social role (such as a hardened warrior) is a good one.
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crashfrog Member (Idle past 1488 days) Posts: 19762 From: Silver Spring, MD Joined: |
You're arguing against the meaning of the word. Yours and M-W's, maybe. My argument is consistent with the meaning of the word as it is used around me.
No lesbians or F2Ms that I know use butch or femme as an absolute term. None. It is a relative term. Well, that's 180 degrees from my experience. My wife's friend is a femme lesbian. Not in a million years would anybody call her "butch", not even in camo pants and a bandolier.
That doesn't change either A) the standards of feminity and masculinity in this country Oh, I see. You believe that the woman in the picture is American?
It's funny that you state that in the same post that you show a picture of... a woman who is in armor, but is wearing low-cut armor, holding herself without a forward posture, and has... long hair! Ah, so armor doesn't automatically make you mannish, then? Proves my point. The elf archer is as feminine as that girl in the leather. It's mind-boggling to me that you can't see it, and that you precieve that difference as implying lesbianism on the part of the elf.
I seriously doubt if you polled Minnesotans and asked "Is aggressiveness (A) a masculine trait, (B) a feminine trait, or (C) neither", you'd get the vast majority saying (A). What is this, argument from imaginary evidence?
The point of the debate is whether a woman who looks like *that* most likely gay. Sure. In my experience, which includes meeting many women in a variety of armors - some sexy ren-fest type armor, some functional metal plate, some in modern hockey armor - women who wear that armor are never gay. What's your experience with women in armor?
Were the Romans flaming? Why would they be?
A deliberately masculine appearance or social role (such as a hardened warrior) is a good one. Well, we're back to where we started, then. Let me ask you again - what is your experience with women fighters that leads you to believe that the majority of them are homosexual?
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Rrhain Member Posts: 6351 From: San Diego, CA, USA Joined: |
crashfrog responds to me:
quote: Um, since you never seem to use that term in any other way, to find you claiming that you really meant "festive" rings hollow. I just did a search for your name and the word "gay" and the result was a litany of posts going all the way back to March of this year and not once did you use "gay" to mean anything except homosexual.
quote: Because except for the song, "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas," nobody under the age of 50 uses the word "gay" except to refer to sexual orientation, really. And sure enough, Brian has agreed...he did mean sexual orientation. ------------------Rrhain WWJD? JWRTFM!
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crashfrog Member (Idle past 1488 days) Posts: 19762 From: Silver Spring, MD Joined: |
Um, since you never seem to use that term in any other way, to find you claiming that you really meant "festive" rings hollow. Now I'm confused. I never claimed the knight was "gay", in any sense of the word. I merely said that "festive knight" was a reasonable interpretation of the phrase "gay knight". Now you think I didn't mean that at all? I don't understand.
I just did a search for your name and the word "gay" and the result was a litany of posts going all the way back to March of this year and not once did you use "gay" to mean anything except homosexual. Ah, but in the context of chivalrous, festooned knights, I use "gay" to mean "festive" 100% of the time. I'm curious why you were puzzled by what I meant by "gay" given that I told you exactly what I thought he meant by it. Can you explain your reasoning here? What does my word use in other threads have to do with the possibility that Brian didn't mean gay in the sense that you thought it did?
Because except for the song, "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas," nobody under the age of 50 uses the word "gay" except to refer to sexual orientation, really. Well, unless they're talking like they're over 50, on purpose. Surely you believe that a person can adopt an unusual or archaic mode of speech? Especially if they're talking about something archaic, like knights who shoot bows?
And sure enough, Brian has agreed...he did mean sexual orientation. Well, obviously, he gets to decide what he meant. Nonetheless "gay knight" could as likely mean "laughing, chivalrous knight" as "homosexual knight" in a context of archaic modes of speech. [This message has been edited by crashfrog, 12-02-2003]
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Rei Member (Idle past 7034 days) Posts: 1546 From: Iowa City, IA Joined: |
quote:quote: They are *not* insults in the GLBT community, we are reclaiming those words. We use them to each other, and a member of the GLBT community would be quite odd if they took offense at the use of them by a known GLBT-friendly person like Holmes.
quote: Yes, some of them have been fairly bad about reclaimation - the point is that you don't get offended when others use it. That problem doesn't exist nearly as much in the GLBT community.
quote: They are used in a negative connotion. Holmes wasn't. And the key way to make it irrelevant is to not be offended by it, Rrhain. You're doing just the opposite.
quote: You pick one line out of the entire article? The article was about the anti-gay tone of the article. They had a whopping sentence about the use of the word "fag", and didn't dwell on it at all.
quote: Again, their problem is by far with the anti-gay content. GLAAD does occasionally denounce the use of the word (as with your other links), but virtually always when it's used in a distinctly anti-gay context. You generally end up finding "allies" dwelling on it more than GLBTs. And you'll almost never find a GLBT who has a problem with a person who isn't using it in an anti-gay context. Holmes distinctly wasn't using it in an anti-gay context.
quote: On this issue, not the majority. We know that many people use it hatefully. But the majority realize that trying to stop people from using such terms, or being offended by such words, is the ideal way to make the problem worse. The best way is to reclaim. And we *do* use those words.
quote: I'll say it again: You're hung up on the words. You try too hard. By the way, Rrhain, that style of "what makes you think..." argument that you love to drag out gets old after a while. None of us are attacking you personally - why do you have to keep dragging yourself into the conversation?
quote:quote: You do? Then why did you say:
quote: ?
quote: I'm not talking about who she was drawn to appeal to. I'm talking about that if I ran into such a woman, I would give her better odds of being a lesbian than being straight (unless it was in a "costume" context as opposed to a reality context, which the picture does not appear indicative of).
quote: Not true. I once had a girl living with me who liked to jokingly sing "I'm a dyke, I'm a dyke, I'm a dyke dyke dyke..." (to the tune of... oh, what's that song they play when they start horse races...) when she was looking particularly butch before going out.
quote: And why do you think they call it "Dykes on Bikes"... to insult themselves? Anyway, I'm off to dinner. Chat later! ------------------"Illuminant light, illuminate me."
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AdminAsgara Administrator (Idle past 2323 days) Posts: 2073 From: The Universe Joined: |
Ok, this off topic discussion has gone on now for over 30 posts. Brian has explained what he meant, Crash is now defending what he thought Brian meant, Rrhain is arguing with everyone. Rei, the only one who might have a legitimate beef with the whole issue, has pointed out at the beginning that she didn't but is now arguing with Crash over semantics. I think it's close down time.
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