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Phat
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Message 74 of 325 (404028)
06-06-2007 11:17 AM
Reply to: Message 71 by RAZD
06-06-2007 8:47 AM


Re: GOOD NEWS !!!
I know that you are not the same religion as I am, but we share a desire and zest for life and I respect your honesty and integrity in your posts and responses to us. The Serenity Prayer always ministers to me, but perhaps you have some pearls of wisdom that encourage you! If you care to share some, I'm all ears!
BTW...I wish that I could go on that ride with you! It sounds exciting.
We will just take it one day at a time this summer as we all strive to do the best we can do and take our emotions as they are and not as we wish they could be.
Share with me some Zen Deist philosophy....maybe I can learn something!

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Phat
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Message 88 of 325 (404754)
06-09-2007 4:05 PM
Reply to: Message 85 by RAZD
06-09-2007 12:07 PM


Facing Inevitable Possibilities
RAZD, my Father had Lymphoma and fought a valiant battle before going quietly one morning in May.
Looking back, I wondered if there was anything different that we could have done to have changed Dads destiny. Nutrition was one item that could have been improved (from my standpoint...I don't know how Dad would have felt) but he didn't eat very much due to the chemo and in retrospect, I believe that he would have been able to tolerate a few high quality nutritional drinks.
One thing I will mention that seems rather idealistic and not grounded in reality but which, to me, is and was quite a reality:
After he died, I sensed his absence in a profound way. There was no evidence that anything remained of him except memories. One summer day, years later, I was riding in a 7 day bicycle tour which went through some of the most beautiful areas of our Colorado Rocky Mountains. I was climbing a rather tough stretch of road near Leadville, and passed a sign that said 10,000 feet. Suddenly I sensed him right there with me, (he never rode bikes, either) and I began to smile and called out "Daddy"? "Daddy?" I had not thought of him every day or anything...but when I became reacquainted with his presence, I was overjoyed. It may have been entirely my own soul reuniting with old memories, but I certainly thought it to be more.
My question to you, RAZD, does not mean to sound negative or fatalistic. As feisty as you are, you probably will survive this cancer and will go on to do some wonderful things in the days that you have left on earth. IF you did die, however, would you be scared of death or would you embrace it? Also, do you think that there is a chance that your soul would be anything more than a fond memory? (If this is too personal, you need not answer, but I am genuinely curious) Respectfully, Phat
BTW this is a question for all of us to contemplate eventually....so I am thinking of my answer as well.

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Phat
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Message 90 of 325 (404759)
06-09-2007 4:47 PM
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06-09-2007 4:37 PM


Re: Facing Inevitable Possibilities
RAZD writes:
One thing I expect at my funeral is fireworks. Celebration.
I love your outlook! You will probably outlive me!
And at my funeral, we can settle for a giant Bar-B-Que...perhaps
I definitely agree with you that life is a celebration! Too many people take it for granted until they are faced with life threatening illnesses.
One question: Do you know where to buy any cheap fireworks?
(Not for your funeral, though....you are too feisty!
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Phat
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Message 91 of 325 (404760)
06-09-2007 4:55 PM
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06-09-2007 4:37 PM


Re: Facing Inevitable Possibilities
When working with some of the inner city youth that all too often face
a future involving prison time, I have found that these idealistic young people do not fear death...(they are too brash if anything) yet they ironically fear life!
If you are teaching me one thing, it is that life is not to be feared!

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Message 145 of 325 (424942)
09-29-2007 11:54 AM
Reply to: Message 142 by RAZD
09-23-2007 6:34 PM


Re: Update
This is great news, RAZD! You are an inspiration to me and make me feel that my gripes really have no place or substance in my life! I'm gonna start riding my bike again also! I'll keep you posted.

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Phat
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Message 196 of 325 (531360)
10-17-2009 9:40 AM
Reply to: Message 190 by RAZD
10-16-2009 10:03 PM


Fate, Faith, and Fight
Knowing the logical sort of guy that you are, I am proud of the fact that you chose frequent exams and are prepared to engage this inner biological enemy again...with full resolve and grim determination. All of us will be sending you as many love and strength vibes as we can muster!
Do the best that you can with your nutrition and exercise, so as to be in tip top fighting trim...and we will all support you daily in whatever way we can! And don't worry about the hair...you are still quite the devilishly handsome guy without it! (I speak for both EvC and Dreamcatcher here...(Come say hi to jar and I ....you have many online friends! )
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Message 254 of 325 (657950)
04-01-2012 9:04 AM
Reply to: Message 234 by RAZD
03-19-2012 4:00 PM


Re: Cancer's inevitable return again
Attitude is huge! Nutrition is also big, as you well know. It seems odd, yet it seems as if you the patient are encouraging all of us even more than we are encouraging you. I am honored to have an online friend such as you to talk with. (though we dont talk all that much! )
There are so many unfinished arguments in life and so many people whom we are blessed to meet that we have not yet met.
Heaven Can Wait.

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