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Michael
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Message 13 of 28 (222266)
07-06-2005 7:54 PM
Reply to: Message 12 by nator
07-05-2005 8:25 PM


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Hello Schraf--I hope this is amusing to you and others.
I am attempting the inept approach to asking out a particular lady--not intentionally, but it seems to me that it is my strongest approach, with all the practice that I've had.
So, as a woman you would have some insight into this--what percentage of women would find that sort of approach kinda cute, and then respond? What percentage of women do I have absolutely no hope with?
This involves two voice-mail messages that I left for my potential sweetheart. The first message I bungled. The second I try to recover by saying I sounded like an idiot on the first, then go on to say what I really meant to say. Which demonstrates that I can admit a mistake, and ... oh yeah, that I am inept in certain social situations.
Actually, in this particular case I think I'm screwed.
Cheers.

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Michael
Member (Idle past 4638 days)
Posts: 199
From: USA
Joined: 05-14-2005


Message 16 of 28 (222407)
07-07-2005 5:40 PM
Reply to: Message 14 by robinrohan
07-06-2005 11:51 PM


Re: question
Robin, I am not quite sure what you mean. If you are saying I shouldn't view women as sexual objects, no worries--I do not. But, if you are saying that I should think of, and treat, men and women in the same way, no way--I can't do it. That men and women are different, beyond the obvious physical differences, should be a truism. As co-workers, I prefer women. As confidants, women win out again. There is always a spark between myself and a female that makes any relationship with them, from casual acquaintances onward, much more interesting than with male friends.
I wonder--does anyone see this as offensive?
Cheers.

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Michael
Member (Idle past 4638 days)
Posts: 199
From: USA
Joined: 05-14-2005


Message 17 of 28 (222414)
07-07-2005 6:16 PM
Reply to: Message 15 by nator
07-07-2005 5:05 PM


Re: question
Well, I don't know how "women" would react.
I can speak for myself only.
But as I don't know you, I don't know if I would find it cute or not, sorry.
I understand.
Do you ever see her face to face?
We are both involved in a loose association of people that meets once a week, though neither of us are there every week.
It really was an answer to the more general question that I had half hoped for. As for the other half--well, if I can provide some entertainment through one of my misfortunes, then it isn't all bad. However, I'm unsure as to whether I succeeded in that regard either.
Cheers.

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Michael
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Posts: 199
From: USA
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Message 21 of 28 (222520)
07-08-2005 5:23 AM
Reply to: Message 18 by nator
07-07-2005 8:06 PM


Re: question
Schraf, it is worth quite a lot. Thanks.
Crash, Robin: I will get back to you guys in a couple of days--not enough time right now.
Also, I need to clarify one statement that I made in message 16 when I get back.
Take care.

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Michael
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Posts: 199
From: USA
Joined: 05-14-2005


Message 22 of 28 (224205)
07-17-2005 11:50 AM
Reply to: Message 20 by robinrohan
07-07-2005 11:56 PM


Robin, I had planned to reply long before now. Work gets in the way of leisure sometimes.
But first, I wrote in message 16:
There is always a spark between myself and a female that makes any relationship with them, from casual acquaintances onward, much more interesting than with male friends.
Boy, it sounds like I am pretty full of myself here. Actually, I don't know for sure that my female acquaintances feel the same spark that I do when I interact with them, though I suspect in many cases that they do. The spark I feel is within myself--but that is enough. As for "always," let's say "nearly always."
Okay, now on to your point:
Not in your heart, no, but you can outwardly. And if you do, they will like that. The point is not to draw attention to the sexual aspect. And if you do that, they will appreciate it.
In my experience, women like attention. The added attention that I give to women is not overtly sexual. It is not intended to produce an outcome, e.g. sex. I give them particular attention just for the sake of doing so, because I enjoy it and they (I have reason to believe) enjoy it as well. Simply put: I like women. I enjoy the company of my male friends as well, but it is just not the same as with females.
However, in some way your point is taken. If, when I call a woman with whom I have a particular interest, I can keep it as casual as if I were calling a male friend to go do something, I would be much better off. That is difficult to do at times. Oh well, such is (my) life.
Cheers.

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Michael
Member (Idle past 4638 days)
Posts: 199
From: USA
Joined: 05-14-2005


Message 23 of 28 (224206)
07-17-2005 11:54 AM
Reply to: Message 19 by crashfrog
07-07-2005 11:00 PM


Re: question
LOL. Thanks Crash, I can't argue with any of that. Much appreciated.
Cheers.

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Michael
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Posts: 199
From: USA
Joined: 05-14-2005


Message 25 of 28 (224272)
07-17-2005 5:49 PM
Reply to: Message 24 by Zawi
07-17-2005 4:20 PM


Re: question
.
Edited by Michael, : No reason given.

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Michael
Member (Idle past 4638 days)
Posts: 199
From: USA
Joined: 05-14-2005


Message 28 of 28 (224301)
07-17-2005 7:56 PM
Reply to: Message 27 by mick
07-17-2005 6:49 PM


... and have a beer?
Yep, you're right--it's a tough life, man. But I'll find some way to bear up.
Cheers Mick.

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