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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
I don't buy those kinds of clothes, but the truth is that a woman who doesn't dress well will not be promoted in a job, or even hired. I have always had jobs in which it didn't much matter what I wore or the uniform was a t-shirt. Although I generally hate the clothes that the "Guess" brandname sells, they actually do have their women's jeans sized by waist size, which was a godsend for me. I am not fat but I am short-waisted and carry almost all of my extra weight in my waist. Most other brands were WAY too big in the rear and thigh if they fit my waist or hips. These fit me really well and I keep buying them because of the greater choice.
Part of "dressing well" is the right nails, hair, skin, makeup, and body shape. Thin and beautiful (that narrow definition)=success and happiness in our culture for women. A woman is judged much harsher for being unattractive than a man is. This message has been edited by schrafinator, 07-17-2005 03:02 PM
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: Yeah. Why don't you ask women who don't wear makeup, don't dress in style, and don't pay attention to their hairstyle and find out how much attention they get from men, or how likely it is they get hired for a high-powered job, let's say?
quote: HAHAHAHA! Men care, believe me. That's why a man's head will snap around if he sees a well-dressed, stacked, nicely coiffed, well-put together woman if she walks by and won't look twice at the women who aren't.
quote: Sure, the problem has been internalized by women, it's true, like the practice of FGM is perpetuated by the women. However, it didn't start with women. It started with females who were the property of men.
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: Has she tried to get a professional business-type job looking like that? Like in an office situation? I mean, more power to her, absolutely, but I have NEVER been talking about just your taste, holmes. Your individual taste is irrelevant, particularly because we all know that you have tastes far outside the mainstream regarding many things. (Except for your inexplicable enjoyment of the dreadful TV show, JAG) My points have always been referring to the majority of people, and if you were to stop patting yourself on the back for liking something different what the masses like, you might have noticed that.
quote: Hahahaha! I work at a deli, holmes. I work with some very good looking men, and let's see, they sell cheese and salami, or they receive and put away merchandise (porters), they sell food over the phone, or they make espresso and serve people pastries. And, most of all, guess what my husband was doing at McDonald's just before we got married? This message has been edited by schrafinator, 07-18-2005 09:16 AM
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
Yes, were talking about an inch or two, because even though the women have gotten taller, their weight has essentially stayed the same. quote: No. According to several ideal height/weight charts I consulted there should be at least a 6 pound increase in weight with a 2 pound increase in height.
Now, the slender hips, flat stomach, and very thin arms and thighs are still in fashion, but with big breasts. That's why fake breasts are so common among many models, actresses, and singers. quote: Yeah. The same can be said of an asian woman getting her eyelids fixed or a buttock implant to make herself look more caucasian. She's just doing it to boost her self esteem, but why is her self-esteem linked to not having a flatter ass or less asian-looking eyes? She has internalized the expectation that she meet a certain ideal, even if it means risking general anaesthesia and spending a lot of money. Oh, and actually, studies show that self-esteem does not automatically improve after cosmetic surgery.
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
Well, I think she's make it into playboy, but only if she got implants.
She's pretty close to the current ideal, yes, and she's certainly tall and skinny enough to model.
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
Oh, so she's only 5'2" and 95 pounds?
The minimum height of a fashion model is 5'8" and her average weight is 108-125 pounds. Now, imagine a woman the same weight as your friend, but five inches taller. That's Kate Moss. (I just realized that I had some bad information about Moss's height upthread. She is 5'7", not 5'10")
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: But do they get hired for high-powered, professional jobs? And I never paid attention to those things and I didn't get hit on. I didn't start getting hit on until I started paying closer attention to my hairstyle, my makeup (the little that I wear), my clothing, and my weight.
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: There is what men say, and then there is what they do. I had a conversation with a male friend at work about how his sister in law is a very petite woman who had recently decided to get big breast implants. He said her husband tries to dissuade her from getting them and that my friend didn't like big breasts himself, and he would try to discourage his small breasted wife from getting them, so he really didn't understand it. But then a few weeks later, after he had been to see his family, I spoke with him again and he mentioned that he saw her new "assets" for the first time and that they were "incredible" and "spectacular". I asked him point blank if he thought she looked really good, and he said "Sure, she looks fantastic!" So, all of that talk about not understanding why she would get implants was silly, wasn't it?
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
but the truth is that a woman who doesn't dress well will not be promoted in a job, or even hired. quote: Hold on. I never said anything about looking like a slob. I said "dress well", meaning business attire. That generally means a skirt (or trousers), pumps, panntyhose, a good hairstyle, makeup, the right bag, etc. And it is common in our culture to associate thinness with compentency. By contrast, someone who is heavier is associated with an inability to control themselves. (Which is funny when you realize that many young women use cigarettes to lose and keep weight off, becoming addicted in the process)
Part of "dressing well" is the right nails, hair, skin, makeup, and body shape. quote: I watch that show all the time. I get tips. Of course, they do tell people who are tall and thin that they will be easy to shop for because they can "wear anything they want to".
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: Then why have I read APA papers which clearly state that the media image of a thin ideal has a significant effect on what starts many girls and women on the road to anorexia and bulimia? Why do we see so much disordered eating habits among girls and women in cultures that value thinness? Why do we see so much of it among models, singers and actresses where appearance and thinness is so emphasized? Why are we seeing more eating disorders in men and boys these days? I am not saying that everyone who wants to look like a model ends up with an eating disorder, and I am not saying that there aren't cases where wanting to look like a model never entered into the equation for a given sufferer, but you cannot say that our culture's thin ideal has nothing at all to do with he commonality of the problem. I had an friend in college who freaked out over getting a little bit of cellulite on her thighs when she was 20 years old that she ate nothing but three bowls of oatmeal a day until it went away. She was an actress and model who is really beautiful and used her looks to great advantage to get what she wanted.
quote: Wow, you must not put any effort at all into finding good quality food, then. Or perhaps you have some medical problem that makes it difficult for you to taste properly or something? There is great food out there, you just have to make the effort to learn what it is and how to find and prepare it.
quote: Read what I write. It was an interview. Moss's comment was printed verbatim. And where do you get that I was diagnosing anything?
quote: Um, I quoted studies, not the media"
quote: No, it isn't.
quote: Are you sure that you don't have a medical problem that has affected your taste perception? Are you telling me that you think a ripe banana tastes the same as a free-range egg fried in good butter?
quote: What the hell are you talking about? Where do you live, in some podunk little town in the middle of nowhere?
quote: How many cookbooks do you own?
quote: What are you talking about? What do you call the "produce section" at your local grocery store? Is it empty all the time?
quote: High quality ingredients do cost more, but they usually taste much better. Don't buy low-quality food from crappy restaurants. Buy the highest quality ingredients you can afford and learn to prepare them properly and you will enjoy it more. Duh.
quote: Cheese isn't unhealthy. An occasional ice cream sundae isn't unhealthy either. Having low blood pressure and being underweight is unhealthy.
quote: So, you slam me above for thinking that maybe, a fashion model who is 5'7" and 95 pounds who has described eating as "boring" just might have an eating disorder, then turn around and give your uninformed diagnosis of my friend's condition. Fantastic.
quote: They did, and it was one of the highest rated shows ever. Remember the first season of Survivor? All ordinary people. Now that show and all of it's copycats have much more beautiful people in their casts.
quote: It also creates needs in people. A big, big part of successful marketing is telling people what they should want.
quote: Where do normal weight 6 year old girls get the idea that they are too fat and should be on a diet? And a study recently came out that showed that middle aged women who our culture considers slightly overweight generally are healthier than thinner women, are less prone to chonic disease and osteoperosis, and live longer than thinner women.
quote: Says who? "A little rounded" in my high school got girls a lot of grief, as did being big breasted, flat chested, big nosed, and too tall.
quote: I generally enjoy what my body can do but not especially what it looks like. I have a very, very hard time viewing myself as others see me.
quote: Jesus, I work out like 3 days a week, I'm on my feet all day and I lift heavy boxes up and down stairs, too. I get lots of exercise. Several men in this thread have very nicely told me that I am attractive, and I sometimes feel that I am, but damn, it is really, really hard to shake my early life experiences with being told, both directly and indirectly, that I was most definitely not.
quote: On this we agree.
quote: My parents never told me that overtly, but they certainly didn't make it a secret that how I looked was more important than how my brother looked. They also made a big deal out of my sister's weight (she sounds a lot like your martial artist friend in body type) but didn't say anything about my brother's tooth gap or "man breasts". The sister that got the most approval and attention was the tall thin blonde one who danced and was a pom pom girl. I was heavily pressured by my mother to try out for the squad every single year even though it was clear that I had little interest. Oh, and they used to weigh the pompom girls every week to make sure they weren't getting too fat.
quote: Nope. That's something I'm working to unlearn from my childhood. It was most definitely something that the culture drove into me.
quote: Wow, what a ringing endorsement for self-acceptance. No offense meant.
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
Has she tried to get a professional business-type job looking like that? Like in an office situation? quote: Well, if someone's hired her as a model, then her body and features are likely to fit the cultural ideal more closely than most. That's great for her but but that's just an accident of birth.
quote: Well, shit, of course if she's in a nerdy, sciency field her appearence doesn't matter as much. But that's not most of the world.
I have NEVER been talking about just your taste, holmes. quote: specifically, I was talking about "most people".
quote: It must make you feel very proud to be with a woman like that.
quote: Tell her thanks from me, will you? That's very nice of her to say so.
I work at a deli, holmes. quote: It's really not that different. It's still meat and cheese between two pieces of bread. IOW, it's not IBM.
quote: Well, they all pretty much look like that all the time. Jeans, Chuck Taylors and combat boots, tattoos and piercings, t-shirts and shaved heads.
quote: That's what he always looked like, pretty much. T-shirts, flannel shirts, jeans, not thin or fat, although he does have great broad shoulders. I saw a picture of him before I went out on our blind date, and to be honest I thought he was OK looking but not incredible or anything. He was making a wierd face instead of smiling. I think he wore jeans and a polo shirt on that date. Of course, I went out with him again because we had such a fabulous time talking and we had a great deal in common, including our senses of humor.
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: Of course. Could it be that you disagree with the statements because you don't like what is being said?
quote: Oh, right, a conspiracy of scientists to withold The Truth from the public. Where have I heard that argument before?...
quote: Where do normal weight 6 year old girls get the idea that they are fat and need to be on a diet? What about normal weight preteen girls? Or teenage and college age women? A significant portion of normal weight girls and women believe they are too fat. Where do they get that idea?
quote: 5-10 million women and girls in the US are anorexic or bulimic. That's not a small number.
quote: Of course it's valid. But it still doesn't explain where normal weight 6 year olds get the idea that they are too fat. I can distinctly remember hanging out with some girlfriends in a park when I was around 10 years old and being self-conscious of how my thighs spread out when I sat on the seat of the swing. I was not at all, in any way, pudgy when I was little. In fact, I was quite skinny and had a raging metabolism that needed to be fed copious amounts of food every 4 hours or I would get queasy and sometimes faint. Nobody in my family was dieting at the time, and nobody ever told me I was fat, so where did I get the idea that my thighs shouldn't spread out like that? This message has been edited by schrafinator, 07-18-2005 12:16 PM
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
Are all of these papers wrong because the researchers are greedy and want to hide The Truth?
link One of the strongest messengers of sociocultural pressures may well be the mass media (Stice, Schupak-Neuberg, Shaw, & Stein, 1994). Irving (1990) discovered a direct relation between media exposure and eating disorder symptomatology over the last several decades. The increase in eating disorders through the years has coincided with a decrease in women's ideal body weight as portrayed in the media (Wiseman, Gray, Mosimann, & Ahrens, 1992). Paralleling the rise in eating disorders was an increase in the number of articles and advertisements promoting weight-loss diets in women's magazines (Anderson & DiDomenico, 1992). Anderson & DiDomenico (1992) established that women's magazines contained 10.5 times more advertisements and articles promoting weight loss than men's magazines, the same sex-ratio reported by Anderson (1990) for eating disorders. Irving (1990) exposed women to slides of thin, average, and heavy models which resulted in lower self-esteem and decreased weight satisfaction for these women. A similar experiment utilizing pictures of models from women's magazines found that exposure to thin models, rather than average sized models, produced increased depression, stress, guilt, shame, insecurity, and body dissatisfaction (Stice et al, 1994). These associations support the assertion that exposure to the media-portrayed thin ideal is related to eating pathology and suggests that women may directly model disordered eating behavior presented in the media (e.g., fasting or purging) (Stice et al, 1994). Leon, Fulderson, Perry, & Cudeck, (1993) established strong associations between body dissatisfaction and eating disorders. The internalization of the media's thin ideal produces heightened body dissatisfaction which leads to the engagement in disordered eating behavior. Additionally, the focus on dieting in the media may promote dietary restraint which appears to increase the risk for binge eating (Polivy, 1996; Stice et al, 1994). Body dissatisfaction is a widespread and common phenomenon among women in general (Andrews, 1997). One of the most central aspects of shame pertains to individual concerns about how one is regarded by others and self-conscious feelings about the body have been consistently noted in the shame literature (e.g., Gilbert, 1989; Mollon, 1984). There is evidence that bulimia is related to general public self-consciousness (Striegel-Moore, Silberstein, & Rodin, 1993). Bodily shame aspects include self-consciousness and embarrassment about general appearance and about exposing specific body parts, concealment of different body parts, and feelings of disgust about oneself concerning others' comments about appearance and body parts (Andrews, 1997). Stice & Shaw (1994) demonstrated that greater ideal-body stereotype internalization predicted increased body dissatisfaction, which was related to heightened eating disorder symptoms. Consistent with these findings, Leon (1993) also drew a path from body dissatisfaction to eating pathology. Stice & Shaw (1994) indicated a strong positive relation between internalization of the thin-ideal and disordered eating. Specifically, it may be that exposure to ideal-body images results in negative affects including shame, guilt, depression, and stress, as well as a lack of confidence which also shows a strong relation to eating pathology (Stice et al, 1994). Further body dissatisfaction leads to restrained eating, which has been linked to the onset of binge eating and bulimia (Wiseman et al, 1992). Although most women are exposed to the media portrayed thin-ideal images, only a small proportion develop eating disorders. It may be that women with perfectionistic tendencies are more inclined to feel dissatisfied with their bodies when they compare themselves to those images presented in the media. Coping skills may also moderate the relation between negative affect, binge eating and restricting, as women with better coping skills would likely ameliorate negative affect in more adaptive ways (e.g., seeking social support) (Stice & Shaw, 1994; Stice et al, 1994).Deborah J. Kuehnel, LCSW, 1998 This message has been edited by schrafinator, 07-18-2005 01:03 PM
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
This was my comment:
What's next, an operation to eliminate the gag reflex so every woman can deep throat during oral sex with a man? I note that nobody but you in this thread has acknowldged it.
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nator Member (Idle past 2191 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: They are a big part of it, but so is Seventeen magazine and my experiences with boys and men.
quote: They demanded good grades as well, but of course american culture taught my parents that the superficial was important. They were Catholics raised in the 1950's for fuck's sake. Putting up a front of domestic bliss and family perfection while reality was far from perfect was the name of the game back then.
quote: India Times Article Over the past few years, with the social emphasis on thinness, and a media playing up the ‘slim’ image, there’s been a rise in eating disorders all over the world. But what was essentially a Western concept has now transcended to most cultures.
Now this disorder is on the rise in India. How Common Are Eating Disorders5% adolescent girls/young women show symptoms of eating disorder. It is 10-20 times more in females. Upper class, educated, professionals, and urban women are more prone to these disorders. It is now being seen in young men and adolescent boys too. The prevalence of anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa has significantly increased since the late 1960s. The Causes Of Eating DisordersGenetics and certain hormonal factors are the biological parameters of this illness. Psychological factors that contribute to eating disorders are: factors like poor parental relationships and family dynamics. Poor self-image or a rebellious nature due to authoritarian parenting and emotional instability at home are a few other causes. All these factors result in increased vulnerabilities to eating disorders. Social factors that have resulted in a rise in eating disorders are: the increased emphasis on thinness and physical attributes with media exposure.
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