No, completely different. If you are a secular practioner, you have a legal obligation to marry everyone who requests it and pays for the services. But you can't walk in to a church and demand that they put their beliefs on hold, regardless of how reprehensible you may find it to be.
I guess my problem is the church aspect of marriage. I didn't "use" a church, but I can see where some people might want to do so. I guess my problem is that if you want to get married under such'n'such a church, and that church says "you cant", you should be OUT OF THAT CHURCH SO FAST EVEN LIGHT WOULDNT KNOW.
it's a fault of the grip around the particular field of belief you apparently have been roped into. please - give up the church that wont allow you to be who you are.
Indeed - not every change is an improvement, but every improvement is a change. If we are afraid to do differently from those who came before us, we condemn ourselves to never do better.
This of course also resonates with the old adage that those who do not know history are condemned to repeat it - alas infamously recalled in the wrong way by Reverend Jim Jones. Now, that was different - but most definitely NOT an improvement.