hooah writes:
I wouldn't even agree that engaging in homosexual acts could alone make one homosexual, namely with the example you provided.
They don't.
I think that people are a lot more flexible sexually than is commonly accepted in our culture. Sexual interest and desire exist on a continuum, with lots of shades of gray, and very few people 100% on one end or the other. Other cultures have been perfectly capable of acknowledging same sex activity without resorting to labels. In fact, I'd be willing to assert that most people have fooled around to some extent or another with someone of the same sex at some point in their lives. Women, at least in our culture, are often less conflicted out this. On the other hand, most men are too stressed about not being manly if they admit to enjoying some recreational activities with another guy's dick. Our society is also much harsher on gay men in general, even today when it's not quite so acceptable for a man to be beaten to death for being, or at least seeming to be, homosexual.
To my mind, the difference isn't sexual so much as it is romantic. Even if people are much more capable of enjoying same sex activity than they usually admit, it's rarer for people to want to have a real romantic relationship with someone of the same sex. I certainly know of some exceptions to this - I have one female friend who considers herself quite hetero, but just happens to have fallen in love with and has a serious relationship with another woman. I don't think that she's bi or just not admitting that she's gay. I think that in her case at least, it's the person and not the plumbing that matters the most.
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