Sure they do but I would say that is a recent development. I mean look at any society just 2000 yrs ago. Is there even one that you could point to where the women were treated equally? I am not saying that they didn't have some input. Even a lowly slave girl could twist the will of a king but as a rule I would wager that the men of history have had a lot more say regarding who breeds with who.
How common are forced copulations in hunter gatherer societies today? I'd guess a lot less than you seem to be implying - except in intertribal conflict. I would think conceptions due to rape in wartime would only be inthe minority though.
I don't know how much choice human women had over choice of partners over most of our history, but I don't think you can just assume it was slim.
Why wouldn't we assume that penis size developed along with general physique and it was the other much more important qualities of being able to hunt better or having a disposition for doing the dishes that led to the actual choices that women made.
Because, contrary to your claims later in the post, there is no correlation between penis size and height. Penis size seems to vary independently of the size of the rest of the body.