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Message 62 of 166 (782967)
05-01-2016 1:26 PM

Permit me to tell about my personal experience in this issue. Hopefully, someone can pick something away from it.
There once was a man. A beautiful man at that. He was a man's man. After spending 5-6 years in Iraq as a soldier, he came back to the states and was honorably discharged.
He and I met at an lgbt convention. After we danced, we talked to each other and it turned out he came from the same city I was living at the time. I asked for his number.
After we came back from the convention, I started calling him and asked him out. We began dating.
I've never been one who sleeps around. Neither was he. We dated for a month or so before we started cuddling with each other.
Ok, this next part is closer to rated R, so if you're underaged, please stop reading.
After having dated for closer to 2 months, we decided that we were both ready to make love. He took off his clothes and he was the most beautiful man I had ever seen in my life. Perfect muscular pecks, perfect 6 packs stomach, very muscular biceps, and a perfect smile. He showed me some scars he had acquired from the war.
We began making love.
This next part is rated X, so those under 30 stop reading now.
There was always something dissatisfying about making love with him. A little before a year later, I was no longer able to keep my erection long enough for penetration.
I began to ask myself am I turning straight now? This is probably the most beautiful man I had ever dated and there I was not being able to perform. He certainly noticed that I stopped penetrating him.
On Halloween, we had arranged to go out. When I went to his apartment to pick him up, I saw that he had a dress and a wig on. Wow, that's a cool costume, I said. I also commented you seem pretty natural with that costume.
The following night, I swung by to pick him up again and he was wearing another female costume. I commented you're really into this Halloween thing.
When we were at a restaurant, he finally said to me this is how I am. It was then that a light bulb went off in my head.
We continued to date for several months after. And I started noticing she was getting thinner and thinner. One day, I asked her you've been looking pale what's wrong? Turned out she doesn't eat or drink all day everyday until she gets home in the evening. Why? So she wouldn't have to use the bathroom during the day.
She never had surgery. Still fully anatomically male. She told me that she doesn't want to lose her sex drive, and that's what happens after surgery.
Our relationship only lasted a few months after that before we shook hands and moved on.
Nowadays, she is a software engineer at a software company downtown. She tells me they are very accommodating to her.
Those who think trans people are just being trans so they can be perverts, please understand that it goes beyond physical appearance. Remember the bit when I described the perfect male body I was seeing and how I couldn't maintain an erection? This was long before she came out to me as a trans. This experience alone convinced me that human sexuality transcends physical appearance.
I now have a long term boyfriend. We've been together for almost 4 years. I don't love him just because he has a male body. It goes much beyond that. I can't fully explain it. Just know that appearance isn't everything.

If you say the word "gullible" slowly, it sounds like oranges. Go ahead and try it.

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