I would like to hear from theists who accept ToE and whether accepting ToE presented a challenge to their faith and how they overcame/resolved this conflict in their minds, or whether it presented no conflict from the get go. What was it that facilitated this change in viewpoint allowing you to accept the ToE?
So instead of arguing with ICANT about what it would take to change his mind, I'm just going to give a personal anecdote ask requested by shalamabobbi.
While currently an atheist, my switch from theism to atheism has nothing to do with the ToE. However, when I first started learning about the ToE, I was an active member in the Episcopal church where I grew up.
I'd always been interested in science, and once I started learning about the ToE, it totally grabbed my attention, and I knew starting in the 8th grade that I wanted to study evolutionary biology for the rest of my life (I currently have a BS in Ecology and Evolution, and will be starting as a doctoral student this coming fall). During the time I was learning about the theory, it never really brought up serious doubts in my faith. I mean, I had them, of course, but while talking to people about them, I often was able to resolve them easily. I attribute this completely to the religious environment in which I was raised: while I went to an Episcopal church, I also attended a Catholic school from K through 8th grade. Now, both churches have many many faults, the Catholic church more only because it's been around longer, but in one thing they get it right. They encourage a critical thinking about the Bible. I was never taught that the Earth was created in six days, or to take anything really at face value. I was taught to consider the symbolism and allegory present throughout the book. During high school, as I got closer to going to college, and I was talking to people about what I was going to study, I actually felt much more comfortable talking to my priests at my Episcopal church about it than many other people in my somewhat conservative town.
My point here is that I believe my faith and my acceptance of science were never an issue because from the beginning, with my parents, and my school teachers, and my priests, i was taught to think critically. I was taught to delve below the surface, to consider context, and human nature. If we're going to convince "fundies" to accept evolution by natural selection, it's not going to happen over night. We have to start by making sure that our schools, when kids are at an early age, do not get taught just memorize facts, and accept them because the teacher says so. We need to make sure that all kids attending public schools are taught how to think critically. Now, this won't affect kids who are home- or private-schooled, but it will at least increase the numbers of people who can think critically in this country.
I know my plan doesn't sound like much, and that it will take forever, but really, you're not going to convince adults that are already set in their ways. Those changes can only come from within. Sure you can present them with all the evidence in the world, but until they take their own blinders off, they won't see it. It also requires a lot of local action. Federal educational standards will not be sufficient. It's up to the parents of the children in the schools to make sure the schools are hiring teachers that will require their kids to think critically.
"There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics."