I, for one, think iano put it quite beautifully there. This is what Christianity (and most religions) are all about: *Desperation*. The vast majority of born again Christians I know, converted during a serious personal crisis: serious illness, bereavement, bankruptcy, etc. When they couldn't rely on themselves or others any longer they turned to the last desperate recourse, God.
So we only find god when we can't cut it, sorry been there got no answer.