Brain, I'm an atheist.... but to play devil's advocate....
Jar may well be a Xian, but his flavour of Christianity is incompatible with all known definitions.
Why couldn't they ALL be correct? God is infinite correct? Why could he not be many things to different people?
I think Jar's point (and tell me if I'm wrong Jar) is that religions are just human understandings of something that by definition can not be understood by humans. It's like trying to describe the state of every atom in the universe :D
Remember that it is a two part command, love others as you love yourself. The first part is that you need to love your self. The second it to love others as you love your self. The fact that you might like to be hurt does not mean that it is right to hurt others.