Peter and Dan,
Evidently your definition of 'relativism' is that everyone affirms his or her own morality and is responsible for his or her own actions. In that case, I am a relativist, so is everyone else, and there is no other reasonable view.
Evidently your definition of 'absolute' is a virtue that is floating in the Plato galaxy, where we can see it with our moral telescopes and are powerless to deny its existence and universality. In that case, there are no absolutes and there is no other reasonable view.
However we define our terms, I believe we make conscious moral choices for which we are responsible. We make these choices not on the authority of God or government, but because we recognize that certain virtues are ends in and of themselves. We decide which are relevant in the context of our situations and how to apply them. We decide how our actions will best accomplish the ideal we strive to realize.
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