Interesting question.
I was raised in a pretty traditional home where my father (a Buddhist) appeared to be the head of the household. My father was responsible for making most of the money and paying the bills. He drove, my mother (a Catholic) did not - she never learned because she was too afraid. Her main responsibility was to take care of the home, the kids, and my father. My mother never made it past about the 6th grade (she's from Mexico) and my father had some college and spent 4 years in the Air Force. After all us kids were in school, my mom starting working. Part-time at first, and then when we all got into middle school and high school, she started working full-time. She was always home to cook dinner, however.
At the time, I did think my dad was the head of the household, but looking back on it now, they simply settled into roles they were most comfortable with. My mother was very happy and fulfilled with being a wife and mother. She never needed more. My parents have always been affectionate with each other and us and so I knew they were happy. Still are after 40 years of marriage. They are best friends.
How did I turn out? As a kid, I was shy and insecure in school, but being a tomboy, I always enjoyed sports and science. As a family, we spent most of our time outdoors as my parents were avid hikers and campers. I also spent most of my summer vacations with my mom and her family in Mexico until high school.
In my professional life, I've always gone after what I wanted and have generally succeeded in accomplishing everything I set out to do. I work in a male-dominated field and have a good professional reputation. I am not very good with dictatorial authority as I don't like anyone telling me what I can and can't do and that goes for my parents, spouse, and even supervisors. I don't have a problem asking for raises or supervising men, which I did for several years when I supervised drilling projects, and will do so again in a couple of weeks.
It's possible my upbringing wasn't traditional enough, but I don't seem to have had a problem with men or leadership in my professional life.