A little clarification here.
You do not need to have IE open to be connected to the internet. Closing IE just closes your browser. It doesn't close the internet. With DSL you should be connected all the time.
When you open AOL, that temporarily assigns you a different IP address. Your computer still has the SBC address, but you can't do much with it, because Windows will want to use the AOL address for everything. So if you want Iano to be able to connect to your SBC IP address, you do need to close AOL. However, it does not matter at all whether you keep IE open or not.
You might have to also shutdown the Windows firewall. You can find it with
START -> Accessories -> System Tools -> Security Center
(that's from memory - I hope I have it right). If you normally run with PC-Cillin firewall, then it is probably safe to leave the Windows firewall permanently off.
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