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Silent H
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Message 36 of 291 (219760)
06-26-2005 3:16 PM
Reply to: Message 1 by CK
06-26-2005 11:41 AM


I listened to the interview as well and generally feel as PaulK does. The hatred is mutual so I don't quite see what the fuss is.
I suppose no matter what I think regarding banks dropping clients for beliefs, this seems to be a bit of justice. Did I say Justice? Maybe I should have said Humour.
I mean to have someone essentially say:
"We are being persecuted by this bank... a bank which we never would have done business with if we had known what their beliefs were beforehand... because they just found out what our beliefs are and they don't like them... those beliefs being that people should be persecuted based on their beliefs... when really the bank should have known what our beliefs were before we started doing business.",
...is to good to be true. Is this really true?
In any case the issue is raised. Should banks be able to deny service to people whose beliefs differ from them?
If they are private businesses then I guess the answer is yes they should be able to deny service for whatever reason they want. Have the "all straight rich white men" bank if you want. Big deal, as it would be that individual's (or group's) business to run as they see fit.
If they are actually supported or in some way backed by the state (which I believe they are in the US), then I would say no. As soon as any institution declares itself a public service, which banks really are, and get public money as a form of security, then denial of service based on anything save acts against the bank itself, is wrong. It has in a sense become a public utility and lost the right to discriminate.
Then again, who should the bank support? How many of you would accept a bank known for keeping accounts from drug dealers, prostitutes, or perhaps pedophilic organizations? Or if such groups were discovered to have been denied service, would you feel less about that bank?
I thought it was a bit of a sham (almost as much hypocrisy as the CV guy) when the bank rep said they were all for diversity and belief and blah blah blah. Well honestly that DOES include people who BELIEVE that others are wrong. Thus they SHOULD have kept the Xian account. That would be diverity. And my guess is they would not be closing the accounts of any organization protesting drug use, prostitution, or pedophiles. Those would be "good" bigots, compared to the "nasty" antigay bigots.

holmes
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Silent H
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Message 37 of 291 (219761)
06-26-2005 3:27 PM
Reply to: Message 30 by Faith
06-26-2005 2:23 PM


Re: Persecute those who persecute
Faith, if you feel that a class of person is bad and should be persecuted in some way for what they do, then you are by definition a bigot.
It doesn't matter if it comes from God, or your own brain. The definition is based on the position, not the source of the position.
It also doesn't matter if you just want them to stay away from you, or be jailed, or tortured and killed. The definition is based on the position, and not the nature of persecution you feel is appropriate as a result of your position.
If it makes you feel any better, everyone is a bigot about something. Those that say they are not and can prove it would certainly impress me. You need to accept the fact that you have a faith which demands certain bigoted attitudes. The question is then how do you live your life so that your bigotry does not conflict with the lives of others within this society.

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Silent H
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Message 42 of 291 (219778)
06-26-2005 5:55 PM
Reply to: Message 40 by crashfrog
06-26-2005 4:29 PM


As written this suggests that a person who believes that criminals should be punished for misdeeds is a "bigot," a characterization that would be neither fair nor accurate.
Sorry, my statement was also slightly incomplete in another way as well (not capturing enough). Let me try again...
If you feel that a class of person is bad and should be persecuted in some way for who they are or what they do, outside of directly injuring another in some way, then you are by definition a bigot.
I cannot simply write off people who believe criminals should be punished as something other than bigot per se. The fact is many crimes are based on bigotry. Otherwise antigay bigots would not have been bigots just a year or so ago when homosexual activities were indeed crimes.
Thus it is about causing direct injury to another in some way, which allows for some idea of retribution or revenge which is just and does not spring a priori from the "hater" regarding the "hated".

holmes
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Silent H
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Message 43 of 291 (219781)
06-26-2005 6:09 PM
Reply to: Message 38 by Lolo
06-26-2005 4:16 PM


Re: Persecute those who persecute
And what are you a bigot about, Holmes?
You'd be suprised at the number and kinds of people I truly do not like. I'm surprised at the number and kinds of people I truly do not like.
Topping the list are:
1) Intolerant (which is not the same as bigots)
2) Willfully Ignorant
3) Hypocrites
4) Fake Liberals who use the pretense of knowledge, tolerance, and diversity to argue for policies that are the opposite. (essentially propagandists for radical "progressives")
5) Fake Conservatives who use the pretense of tradition, love (or faith), and freedom to argue for policies that are the opposite. (essentially propagandists for radical "fundemantalism" or "conservatism")
There are more, but then we are really reaching into the area of personal taste and I don't want to offend people on those kinds of issues. The above at least have a rational basis in that they can result in actions that actually harm, or in some way indirectly effect my life.
Well... I am sure that everyone can guess that I am a bigot regarding prudes.
In a slight irony, I really do love diversity and so in a perverse way I do like the fact that there are all these people I don't like. I just wish there less of them around, or at least not running the show.

holmes
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Silent H
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Message 45 of 291 (219787)
06-26-2005 6:48 PM
Reply to: Message 44 by Monk
06-26-2005 6:27 PM


I do think the bank seemed oddly "active" in pursuit of this cancellation, however...
If the Bank suddenly went public without prior notice after having Christian Voice as a customer for 3 years, then as a bank customer I would have concerns and might consider doing business with a more discrete organization.
You don't think the CV enjoyed all the free publicity they just got? This total nonissue allowed them access to print and radio media.
Bank closes bank account client wants closed anyway, film at 11!

holmes
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Silent H
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Message 108 of 291 (219947)
06-27-2005 6:04 AM
Reply to: Message 107 by Faith
06-27-2005 5:10 AM


Re: Yet more misrepresentation.
I am answering your previous reply to me here as I fear it might get overlooked otherwise (so many posts since then)...
I think people should do as they please but not do it in anybody's face,
Look, bigotry is separate from what you feel is demanded of those you don't like. Separation and seclusion is a demand, just as killing, though it is a much less violent demand. The only question to ask to determine if you are a bigot is if you do not like people based on who they are or what they do, barring transgressive behavior.
I'm not sure why that is so hard to admit. I have to say it seems humorous to find people reminding you not to throw stones when they themselves do the same thing (they too are bigots), but your sense of denial is rather odd. One would think you should be proud of your beliefs even if they include some bigoted attitudes.
Bigotry is required for ANY select group... that's how they remain a select group.
In any case, I will move on to address your issues of how bigotry should be instituted.
such as in parades down main streets,
We allow all sorts of different groups the freedom to assemble and protest and celebrate. That is in the Constitution. Whether you are a Xian or not, if you are an American that is something you have to accept, even if you'd rather they stay behind closed doors.
This only benefits you so that if/when they finally come to power, YOU can still parade down the street regarding your beliefs.
Its sort of a quid pro quo kind of deal.
and not be given any special status by the government for doing it
As far as I know, gays are not asking for any special status.
and not be allowed to change 6000-year-old crosscultural tradition to accommodate what they do (gay marriage), and not be subjected to any kind of persecution for it.
Here is where you run off the rails. While I certainly back the notion that gay marriage would be a new tradition, the lack of a 6000 year old history does not mean it must not happen, nor that there was a 6000 year old history of persecuting people for trying to have gay marriages.
Do you know what has a 6000 year old history? Polytheism, Polygamy, Prostitution, Group Sex, Open and Free Homosexuality, etc etc...
What does not have a 6000 year old history is Xianity nor Judaism nor Islam.
At some point they became new traditions and had to fight just as the gays are now for the right to form their traditions. Now if you want to pull rank on gays for being the new kids on the block then you are not only being hypocritical, but I'll thank you and pull rank on you since compared to me, YOU are the new kids on the block.
In that case open homosexuality will be allowed even if we do not have gay marriage, and you guys can go back to worshipping in secret ceremonies in the back of caves near the desert... sound fair?
I also think bigots are human beings and to attack personal beliefs no matter what they are, including bigotry, such as by denying services to them, makes the deniers worse than bigots.
I agree that bigots are human beings. I just argued that all humans are bigots about something. To attack anothers personal beliefs is then human, as that is what bigotry is.
To attack a bigot for being a bigot, rather than the nature of the bigotry would be a bit hypocritical I must admit. But isn't that what you are doing?
And doubly so, you wish to deny the service provided by public streets and places to others who you call bigots, because of their beliefs. Does that make you worse than the bigots that are worse than bigots?
The head swims.
In any case, I do agree that attacks on another system of beliefs within a civil society, should be restrained to debate and personal seclusion (that is YOU keep YOURSELF away from the others). Attacks which take physical form or denial of common use is not very wise, in that it isn't very practical or consistent.
I do not see how an owner of a private business, denying service to a customer he does not want to serve is necessarily wrong. That is his business and so his personal space. The only exception IMO, is if it receives public support of some kind or acts as a public service.
What I would like to hear from you is if you support the new "faith based" initiatives which the Bush administration has put in place? On top of enforcing that Xian organizations can be in your face to everyone, indeed one is forced to go to them to let them get in your face, it also allows those organizations to FIRE or DENY EMPLOYMENT to nonXians. Is that right or wrong?
Leave people alone.
Hey, I'm the one of the few allies you have here. I am arguing that people should leave each other alone. You are a bigot, just like the rest of them (and me) and we should all leave each other alone regarding each other's beliefs and practices so that we can form a functional civil society.
Can you explain how CV was championing the virtues you just espoused by asking a musical be denied service? Even if you agree with why they disliked it, the attacks do seem to make them worse than bigots (according to you).
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Message 110 of 291 (219958)
06-27-2005 7:52 AM
Reply to: Message 109 by gengar
06-27-2005 7:29 AM


I agree with the assessment going on regarding the duality of public and private commentary, however...
people out there who would LIKE to be tolerant of homosexuality (or even think they are) - but that does not mean they find it difficult to actually BE so. Many people still, in their gut, feel uncomfortable.
Tolerance does not equal acceptance or comfort, it is allowance for things that make one uncomfortable.
If every one accepted or felt comfortable with homosexuality then it would not need to be tolerated.
AbE: Forgot to finish my point...
Thus the public and the reps are working for tolerance by creating legislation which allows for activities that most would grumble privately about to themselves and friends.
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Message 115 of 291 (219980)
06-27-2005 9:50 AM
Reply to: Message 112 by gengar
06-27-2005 8:50 AM


equating their discomfort with 'that's wrong' rather than 'that's not how I'd choose to live'
Uhmmmmm, this sort of raises distinctions I've discussed at length in previous threads (not blaming you though for having not seen them).
You are right that there is a difference between taste, moral value, and legal value.
To my mind taste (I don't like X, or X is not how I would choose to live), is essentially the same as moral value (that is "wrong"). The difference being that in the latter case someone tries to elevate their shit above other people's shit so they can point a finger (or raise one). It is all simply an evaluation of another based on personal feeling.
Both are completely separate from legal value (that is criminal) in that a group has decided to codify their tastes against something.
I think tolerance is the ability to separate "taste and state".

holmes
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Message 116 of 291 (219982)
06-27-2005 9:57 AM
Reply to: Message 111 by robinrohan
06-27-2005 8:06 AM


Re: Rational bigotry?
I would think there's a rational reason for disliking hypocrites as a group, assuming such could be identified, but no rational reason for disliking homosexuals as a group.
Not to be too sarcastic, but you should read my posts a little more closely.
I stated that there was a possible, more rational, reason to dislike hypocrites (or any of the top 5 I mentioned) as opposed to other groups. They can have an overt, even if indirect impact on my life.
I'm not sure I'd want to say there is "no" rational reason to dislike homosexuals as a group. Any dislike, unless directly effected by a group, is based on subjective nonrational feelings. But I think someone could argue that homosexuals in some indirect way, even if less that hypocrites, could effect their life and so have a "rational" concern.
Certainly people used to have "rational" concern about homosexuals, as people currently have "rational" concerns about polygamists, hedonists, prostitutes, pornography, and pedophiles. It isn't based on some scientific evidence "rational" reason about harm, but rather about concerns of keeping a certain "tone" to a society.

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Message 117 of 291 (219984)
06-27-2005 10:13 AM
Reply to: Message 114 by robinrohan
06-27-2005 9:29 AM


Re: Rational bigotry?
I wouldn't call this bigotry, since I have a very good reason for disliking them--namely, that they murder.
Crash raised this point earlier and I already corrected my definition of bigotry. It was a little bit too inclusive on one hand (hating criminals), and not inclusive enough on the other (racism).
Thus my corrected def is that a person dislike someone and want them treated different in some way due to who they are or what they do, barring those who have directly transgressed others in some way.
your dislike of prudes might qualify as a real bigotry.
It is and I admit it. I don't like them. I don't like being around them. And when I discover someone I know is a prude it really makes me lose interest in keeping them as a friend.
They do affect my life in that they often find reasons to rationalize their body or sexual hatred, by disowning science and legislating their agenda to allegedly "help" others.
Homophobes are a select group of prudes, but prudes nonetheless. You are correct that a prude does not have to be a homophobe (I have known gay prudes, and seen some here at EvC).
Of course being a prude is different than simply being "prudish" about something. The latter is confined to recognizing personal limits, squeamishness, without moving into moralizing or evaluating a practice. I am prudish about certain practices, but am not a prude regarding them.
They might go through life without a lot of fun, but such an attitude is hardly immoral.
Morality has nothing to do with being a bigot, at least not necessarily. While many do combine the two, I do not convert my tastes into moral rules so while I dislike prudes and am a bigot regarding them, I do not say they are "wrong" in some moral sense.
My moral system is a value one and they are just as much moral actors as I am. They are "ascetic" while I am "hedonistic". Neither of us are morally correct.
I do believe they are factually mistaken and prone to injuring themselves and others with their unnatural take on human sexuality... that it is something other than a natural function like eating, sleeping, and walking.
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Message 151 of 291 (221610)
07-04-2005 7:03 AM
Reply to: Message 150 by Faith
07-04-2005 4:19 AM


Faith, where are you?
I've raised the points you have reraised a while back. It is bad sport to disappear from an argument, only to reappear with the same position later as if it were unchallenged.
The qualification is heterosexuality and the potential -- IN PRINCIPLE -- to conceive children. It is in society's interest to protect this institution. Gays have no qualifications for it no matter how hard they work to ape it. They can live as they please, no problem, but they do not qualify for marriage.
1) The point in question is changing the qualification. Thus what qualifications have been in the past is moot.
2) In principle and in reality gays have AT THIS POINT IN TIME the ability to "have" children in just the same way as infertile hetero couples. You can call it "aping" as much as you want but the infertile couple has the same status in principle and reality as a gay couple. Historically they didn't because of our lack of knowledge and technology regarding childbirth... that has changed, opening up the comparison and raising the question.
Marriage is the foundation of order in a society.
3) Why is this so? How have you reached this conclusion?
4) Even if so, that does not undermine the argument for gay marriage. In fact it argues for gay marriage in that it will bring more relationships into order, and it certainly cannot force heteros out of order. Thus more order is founded in society.
you might as well toll the bell for the society as a whole.
I honestly have not heard of one civilization that fell due to changing marriage laws or customs. Have you? What are they?
An extremely rare occurrence both historically and crossculturally. That's a joke of a nonargument that's always trotted out.
You know what else is a rare occurence both historically and crossculturally? Societies crumbling when they change their marriage laws and customs. That's a joke of a nonargument that's always trotted out. Indeed it certainly was when miscegenation prohibitions were being lifted.
if you live to experience the full chaotic results of the trashing of marriage, growing poverty, burdened single parents and grandparents, alienated younger generation, growing sexually transmitted diseases.
"IF" we live to experience it??? I thought you were describing the Bush administration.
Let's see, trashing marriage (by making it a set definition incapable of change beyond fundie Xian)... check. Growing poverty... check. Burdened single parents and grandparents... check. Alienated younger generation... perhaps two checks. Growing sexually transmitted diseases (due to abstinence only education and reversal of contraceptive aid to impoverished nations)... check.
Gosh, maybe Bush has a "gay agenda" after all. It's certainly looked queer to me.
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Message 183 of 291 (221682)
07-04-2005 1:29 PM
Reply to: Message 152 by Faith
07-04-2005 7:59 AM


Re: Marriage is for heterosexuals, period.
Moot? A universal custom is MOOT?
Yes, it is moot to the question of if we can or should change the qualification.
Just because something has been one way "forever", is not an indication that it must be that way forevermore.
The universal custom was polytheism until monotheism came along. All cultures were based around polytheistic religion. Wasn't whether polytheism had been the universal custom up to that point moot when considering whether to accept monotheism as a viable religion?
In the first case, as with gays, they are not qualified for marriage
Not in all cultures. In any case you have avoided the question.
There is no purpose for it.
No, there WAS no purpose for it. Since legitimation of any sexual relationship socially, as well as the conference of rights governmentally has become the nature of marriage, the nature of marriage itself has changed such that gays might want to partake in it.
If you want to blame anyone for changing what marriage is about, blame Xians for hammering home the idea that the only sex which is socially and legally legitimate is the sex within marriage.
I have no answer for this. It's something I think should be obvious upon serious reflection.
Upon much more serious reflection you will realize that without an answer to that question, your position is without evidence and so untenable. In other words my position is more accurate.
No, what we have been doing with our general widespread trashing of marriage over the last half century is absolutely unique in history I believe.
It is unique only in the fact that it will be about gay marriage in specific, rather than changing other parts of marriage (like losing polygamy), though I guess it should be pointed out that the US has now failed to keep up with or make history. The historic act of recognizing gay marriage was already done by Netherlands, Canada, and Spain.
As I already pointed out, that idea was an extremely limited situation, and again, the principle that underlies marriage throughout all time and all cultures is heterosexuality.
Your reasoning is circular. Either changes have an effect or they do not. They can be demonstrated or they cannot. Your claim is that changing marriage customs is detrimental. You have proof or you do not. Even if you specify the criteria to only gay marriages then you have proof or you do not.
If there is no historical evidence of ill befalling any nation because it accepted gay marriage then you are lacking any basis for claiming that it will cause something bad to happen.
Over half the nation voted for Bush. Remarkable how the "people" of the nation are described as if we didn't even exist.
What are you talking about? In no way did I exempt the people who voted for Bush from the problems he has caused our nation.
Why don't you line us up and shoot us, then you can have the America YOU want without the bother of people who disagree with you.
I am for a diverse population. Can you tell me what will happen to me in the end times?
The People who voted for him and want a fair and honest justice chosen for a change
So you are admitting you want an activist judge?
Oh right, abstinence-only education causes STDs. Right. Mind like a steel trap there.
No, that and the reduction of prophylactics being disseminated for use in poor areas around the world cause a greater spread of STDs. That is absolutely true.

holmes
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Silent H
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Message 184 of 291 (221690)
07-04-2005 2:17 PM
Reply to: Message 174 by Faith
07-04-2005 10:43 AM


Re: An open call to those who support Abstinence
some egging them on while the abstinence programs are a pretty weak alternative in such an atmosphere.
Their natural desires will be egging them on just as much as and likely more than anyone else. I'm glad you admit that abstinence programs are a weak alternative to adequate sexual health programs, when sex is likely to occur at some point anyway.
"Be careful" isn't working either however. Condoms don't solve all the problems and even when encouraged aren't often used.
Condoms are certainly not the answer to the problem. I know some seafe sex advocates push that line but that is simply not true.
First and foremost people need to understand more about their own sexual health. People need to get tested and govts need to get active in encouraging citizens to get tested.
Second people need to engage in less dangerous sex acts. With those of quetionable or unknown sexual health, penetrative sex should not be engaged in without protection. That still leaves masturbation.
Even oral sex without swallowing cum, if you are certain your mouth does not have any open sores, would be safe from HIV infection, though there could be some lesser STD infections.
If one is going to engage in penetrative sex with someone of unknwon health, then condoms... while not a guaranteed solution... are without question the very next best thing. You don't need 100% success to drastically reduce problems in a pandemic.
So know your health and that of your partners, stick with masturbation (or at most oral without swallowing), and if you go further use condoms. That is near 100%, and if you stick with masturbation will be 100%. Anything else will be risky behavior.
And that beats abstinence every single day of the week.

holmes
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Message 237 of 291 (221835)
07-05-2005 5:14 AM
Reply to: Message 190 by Faith
07-04-2005 7:47 PM


Re: Marriage is for heterosexuals, period.
According to the Bible, our first parents knew the One God, and polytheism was a degeneration after the Fall when the true God was forgotten and the demons impersonated "gods" to spiritually dead humanity. Polygamy also was a degeneration from the original God-ordained monogamy, again as a result of the Fall.
Perhaps you should read your own Bible. There was no marriage at all within the Garden, and the initial references to marriage in the Bible are okay with polygamy.
But in any case you have not answered my question at all regarding polytheism. Whether it was the great flood or Babel or whatever which caused most humans to forget the "true" past, there was only polytheism as far as people knew until monotheism rose up. Thus the situation is similar to today where as far as we know there were no gay marriages.
Does a lack of knowledge about something having been a tradition in history, have anything to do with the question of if a new thing can be done? No. It is moot to that question.
Name the cultures that have sanctified gay marriage.
Sanctified? Well in that case there are some. If you mean had as legal institutions then there are none. I am well on the record at EvC for pointing out that there is no example of gay marriage as a part of cultures throughout history.
That is of course disregarding recent history at this point, because some parts of Western civilization has.
But the point you are trying to make is true, there is no tradition of gay marriage throughout human cultures, due specifically to its nature which was securing familial rights that really could only be applied to heteros (though not just couples).
The problem you are having is dealing with the next step. That does not make an argument why it cannot start now and be successful, or that if it did happen that all societies would crumble.
In fact someone could point out the obvious counter argument. Up till now no nations have had gay marriage and they have all collapsed. Maybe what they all needed was gay marriage!
By the way, don't ever ask me again for proof of something until you give proof of something you have claimed. To ask me to show cultures that have had gay marriage when you refuse to back your claim of cultures that have fallen due to changing marriage values, is a bit hypocritical.
They want it to give an aura of legitimacy to their unnatural sexuality, that's all.
That is right. So what's the problem? We allow you to practice your unholy and unnatural religion all you want, and not even have your corporate churches pay taxes.
Whether it is "unnatural" in your eyes, or the eyes of your God, as a social custom gays want State sanction to grant an aura of legitimacy to themselves and those that don't hate them. You can still dislike their unions, just as some spit on your backward beliefs and practices.
by redefining rights and freedoms to cover sins and crimes and aberrations.
By "redefining" you mean "returning".
And what does this CHANGE?
It changes exactly what I said it changed. Xians (well the monotheist religions in general), through their worldwide campaigns have helped redefine the traditional role of marriage that you like to squawk about. It went from rights for families to legitimization of sexual relationships regardless of children.
Thus marriage took on a social connotation outside the religious sphere. You can't blame anyone else but yourselves if people outside your religion accept and react to social connotations.
To be honest I wish gays would reject it as well as any other free thinking person. But social customs/expectations are hard to smash.
The "loss" of polygamy started a couple of millennia ago, it's not exactly new, and it can be credited as one of the improvements in the West that led to our great success as a culture.
What do you mean a "loss" of polygamy? First of all the early monotheists in your own freaking Bible were okay with polygamy. Monogamy was later recommended but not as some absolutely correct way, until much later in the church and that not really two millenia ago. But that was just Xians.
Outside of that there are more polygamous cultures than there are exclusively monogamous ones. Are you suggesting that there is a lesser degree of people getting married in polygamous fashion? Maybe. But that is hardly a loss of polygamy altogether and more of a demographical snapshot of trends.
Polyamory is rising.
But heterosexuality is THE standard and changing THAT is as good as asking for the destruction of society altogether. Practically speaking, gay marriage does NOTHING for society, it is merely a self-indulgence that trivializes marriage and contributes to the fragmentation and confusion we're already seeing so much of. So far I've been avoiding bringing God into this but at some point it has to be said that this is just inviting God's judgment, along with all the other ridiculous social "freedoms" we've been entertaining. In fact this fragmentation IS the beginning of God's judgment.
Practically speaking it does do something for society. It produces happiness within a section of the population and may even contribute to a less "loose" lifestyle. Even if you hate gays, it would seem that having them "settle down" to be prudes just like you would at least be welcoming.
And you have still done nothing to explain how it trivializes anyone else's marriage, or causes fragmentation and confusion. So a gay couple gets married? How does that effect anyone else?
There are many types of vehicles, the fact that a drivers license can be used for a pickup truck as well as a VW Bug, does not have anyone screaming they can't figure out whether they are a redneck or a hippy.
But I'm glad you've finally come clean and admitted the only source of fear that you have regarding this: Yourself. You claim to have some uncommon knowledge that is only shared on high with God (for certainly it is not in the Bible) and which you are doling out to us in these fractured nonfact filled posts.
Yet it does raise a question. If gays getting married will bring on God's judgement, isn't that a good thing? Isn't that what Xians are waiting to die for?
It seems your best plan is to allow it to happen and keep praying for your own salvation and soon everything will be peachy.
"Science" will be the death of us all. Common sense is thrown out and now we must do everything by "evidence." Do you have to conduct a double-blind experiment to find out if it's wise to get out of bed in the morning or not?
If I'm going to publish a paper or make a claim that getting out of bed will cause nations to crumble, then yes some sort of research is in order.
Without evidence common sense is nothing.
When you get sick do you go to a hospital?

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)

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Message 240 of 291 (221842)
07-05-2005 5:44 AM
Reply to: Message 236 by Faith
07-05-2005 4:51 AM


Re: Why state sanctioned marriage?
Once you have an atmosphere in which "whatever turns you on" is treated as a Constitutionally protected right and freedom, in which porn is a right for instance, what's to stop every kind of sexual predation from coming out too?
He was talking about priests, not joe citizen.
I have a constitutional right to say screw god, Jesus and all his followers, but my guess is that won't be heard coming from a priest anytime soon.
Indeed I have rights that I might not indulge in if I actually have FAITH in a position and practice it and it happens to say not to do X.
Within the Xian culture priests sure as heck didn't have a culture of sexual license and were exposed to quite the opposite, certainly less that joe citizen, yet had harder times coping with their own desires. They were not only willing to ignore their own rules but were even willing to force activities on people that were unwilling, or would be offensive to the parents of those that might have given in to a momentary weakness.
All sorts of previously hidden murk would surface in such an atmosphere it seems to me. But I'm not sure what your question meant. I'm just musing.
Read St Augustine. His argument was that suppression of things like prostitution (and its corrollary pornography) is what would cause all sorts of muck to rise to the surface. He likened such sexual license to toilets and sewers. While one may find such things repulsive to think about, without them worse things will appear very quickly.
Indeed I believe he even "predicted" that a rise in homosexuality would naturally result from not allowing men and women to play freely.
But I guess demons could be saints as well, huh?

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)

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