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Silent H
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Message 4 of 16 (176568)
01-13-2005 2:00 PM
Reply to: Message 1 by Shaz
01-13-2005 12:15 AM


NOTE (general): Given the rather sensitive nature of this topic, and the inability of some people to handle rational discussion on sexual topics, I am going to be very selective in who and what I address within this thread. Any person using innuendo or insults will be given one warning by me, after which (if they do not clean up their act) they will simply be ignored. I'm handling this one very carefully (avoiding my own sarcastic tendencies).
NOTE (to Shaz): When you quote from my posts, can you please put "..." when you skip portions of my statements. The quote you provided, when abbreviated the way it was did not read as I was intending it to. Also, you seemed to have my position a little bit wrong and Tal's quite wrong. He was quite clear in thinking that pedophilia is wrong, he was simply indicating that another person had no objective evidence to draw a line using the moral system (this may have been a wrong accusation but it was what he was making).
Although I appreciate the start you gave, I want to suggest we approach this differently. I hope you will agree when I explain...
I think we should not approach this from an end point and work backward. That is we shouldn't start with present assumptions and definitions and then try to refute them. I think it will make more sense to start from scratch and build mutually agreeable definitions and rules, adding evidence as needed.
The complication: This subject contains many different issues and each one could be its own thread. Here are the different issues (outside of definitional issues like what do we mean by harm)...
1) Does sexual activity cause harm (esp in minors and esp when engaged in with adults)? If so, what kinds of harms and to what extent? And possibly how such harms compare to those from other sources? This subject would primarily be evidentiary.
2) Is sexual activity with minors morally wrong? Although this could include evidence from 1, it is not necessary depending on the moral system. This would not involve as much evidentiary discussion as philosophical arguments on criteria for judging wrong as it applies to sex, and then down to specifically sex and minors.
3) Should sex be regulated (esp with regard to minors esp with adults)? If so, why and how? This will also be less evidentiary with most discussion being on practical or legal concepts regarding sex.
Each of those subjects are completely separate and not contingent upon each other. For example there may be no evidence of harm, and it may not be "wrong", yet there be perfectly good reasons to regulate it based on practical issues or issues of rights. Conversely there may be some harm, and it may be viewed as wrong, yet because of rights or practical issues it should not be regulated.
I lay this out here so that, if you agree with the above, we can choose a specific topic and realize none decide the entire topic. That tends to take the pressure off of debate when people worry about how it impacts other issues and start working in new/unnecessary arguments.
It seems to me that you are interested in addressing the first issue, which is whether sex causes harm (esp in minors and esp with adults. That would be fine. If so, we could then start creating definitions.
But I will say that if we do approach #1 then the onus is going to have to be on the person arguing that sex causes harm to provide evidence for harm. That not only makes more sense in the guilty until proven innocent vein, but it is a practical impossibility to prove something does not exist.
Assuming this is what we are going for then let me get some potential misunderstandings out of the way. I think it is safe to remove overt cases of rape and coercion from discussion.
In adults and children alike, violent actions or inducing fear to get something (sexual or not) definitely has a negative impact of some kind.
I am also quite in agreement that obsessive problems in anyone (and of any kind) can cause problems. Thus adults whose sexual desires drive them to actions they do not want to engage in and actually prevent them from working/living are suffering a psychological problem. If they are driven to force others into sexual acts (or any other acts) they will be inflicting some form of harm on a victim.

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)
"Don't believe I'm taken in by stories I have heard, I just read the Daily News and swear by every word.."(Steely Dan)

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Silent H
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Message 7 of 16 (176882)
01-14-2005 4:14 AM
Reply to: Message 6 by Shaz
01-14-2005 2:30 AM


Now Holmes that is a generalisation, and one that is wrong, which I evidenced on the other thread this afternoon. Forgive me but I am slightly disturbed and even emotive about this, particularly as I requested for you to rephrase the original comment.
I think we my find ourselves at an impasse unless you are going to recognize that what I mean and what you are taking out of my statement are two different things.
Sexual activity is as you have noted a range of activities and conditions. It seems that you are reading my statement to mean that a person can do the entire range of activities and under all conditions and there would be no harm. That is not even close to what I am saying, and hopefully you'll breathe a sigh of relief at that.
What I am saying is that sexual activity itself (within common sense ranges and conditions) does not cause harm to anyone of any age.
In the other thread you mentioned: fatalities, STDs, and physical injury. I think that really boils down to two issues: physical injury (up to and including fatal), and STDs.
I am in total agreement that you CAN cause injury to someone using sexual means. That is regardless of age, though the methods which can cause physical damage increase as ages of a person being penetrated decrease. One can also damage a person of any age during sex through violent activities (but then the cause is violence and not sexual activity).
This said, I think it is a bit of an equivocation to say that "sexual activity" causes harm when the actual problem you are looking at is "sexual activity without regard for physical well being (crudely put, not worrying about putting a large object into something which will not contain it), or use of violence".
I think you would agree that there are some sexual activities which simply cannot cause sexual harm. To select sexual activities which will or are likely to cause harm in any specific case is pretty much a willful act of violence, or one of sheer ignorance. And that is at any age.
As far as STDs go, I will once again point out that sexual activities do not cause STDs. That is pretty much beyond question. STDs are only spread by sexual activity, and that is when a person who is infected has sex with someone who is not infected. Yes, choosing to have sex with anyone when you are not sure of your sexual health, or know that you are infected, is a potentially harmful act.
But then I would argue that is a choice, just like trying to penetrate someone whose size simply (and quite obviously) cannot physically accomodate that act. Thus the two harms collapse into one: physical injury (up to and including fatal, as well as STDs)... and that gets attached to sexual activity in a clause which specifies a certain set of conditions, and does not pertain to just plain "sexual activity".
To say "sexual activity" causes harm, or that there is evidence that "sexual activity" causes harm, paints too large a stroke and covers activities which are pretty patently harmless physically.
Yet I suppose what you are seeing me say (by using "sexual activity" causes no harm), is something which paints too large a stroke and absolves all activities including ones which are patently harmful.
Let me amend it this way, and see if you agree...
"Outside of specific actions which in a specific situation are likely to cause physical injury, there is no evidence that general sexual activity itself causes any harm to anyone."
This of course covers anyone of any age. The idea that because one desires sex with another (or even with onesself) that all physical activities are possible, or healthy, is not realistic. It is possible to choose specific harmful acts in a situation, but then one is choosing not to engage in acts which are likely not to harm.
Can we agree thus far?

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)
"Don't believe I'm taken in by stories I have heard, I just read the Daily News and swear by every word.."(Steely Dan)

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Silent H
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Message 9 of 16 (177027)
01-14-2005 2:30 PM
Reply to: Message 8 by Shaz
01-14-2005 11:07 AM


It is entirely likely, that there will never be a complete agreement reached between us on this issue.
Actually I came away from your post with a much more positive feeling. I think we'll reach some form of agreement.
It seems that this is mainly a semantics problem. I used terms which you took to mean something broadly open, and which I take to mean something not nearly as broad. I certainly can't say it makes you wrong, and I will use it as a check that I should try and be more specific.
In my defense I will say that I was writing that quickly as a side note on a subject to a person I have talked with before and did not feel my words would be seen as broad as you interpreted them.
So let's get back to work...
I do not know of any medical condition that could not be construed to be injurious in a physiological sense; albeit I may be wrong.
I agree with this which is why I collapsed it later to simply one issue which is causing injury. I only started with STDs as separate as your post had listed them separately.
Sorry Holmes I cannot agree, on your basis of using ‘simply cannot’. If you had said ‘there are some sexual activities which usually do not cause sexual harm’, then I would have agreed. However this is again a separate argument, because one then gets into the measurement of harm on a cultural, physical and psychological basis.
To be honest rereading the sentence I don't even agree with it. I guess I was writing too quickly and put in a couple words I hadn't meant to. In fact if someone else had written it I would have asked why there couldn't be other types of harm than "sexual harm". I meant something else.
Agreed they do not cause infection, but they can still be a cause of infection.
Heheheh... you are a stickler for semantics on one subject and I am a stickler on this one. I think most people get confused when "cause" is used and so should not be used unless necessary.
Sexual contact with those who are infected can be the cause of infection, sex in general cannot. From hindsight one can say for this infection sex was the route (or cause of), but it was sex with a particular person. Thus I argue for saying it is a possible path for an infectious disease, and not it is a cause of infection.
A good example to follow how we handle a cold. We would not say breathing is the cause of a sinus infection. What we'd say is contact with a sick person is the cause of the infection.
This makes things more clear and takes away the implication sex is somehow infectious.
your statement implies that there is an absolute of ‘no evidence’, and by saying ‘to anyone’, you apply a standard measurement of harm to all.
Actually I will have to stand by this, there really is no evidence for harm coming intrinsically from sexual acts toward anyone (and that means all). It is the specific conditions of any particular act which may create conditions for harm. I think your argument is really that my general sounding statement must be altered to include the possibility of specific conditions, such that people cannot take it to mean there is no possibility of causing harm while having sex.
I would say, ‘Generally sexual activity does not cause harm, unless inappropriately applied’. Now the measurement of inappropriate is again another argument. However I believe that allows individual measurement to be applied with respect to cultures and the actual individuals, interpretation of ‘harm’, i.e. a culture that allows sexual relations with minors, may only consider it inappropriate if there was harm contrary to that custom, or the rights of the individuals concerned.
I think this is an interesting argument and I would agree the statement would allow different cultures to apply their own standards. I have already said that cultures can very well view something as a harm that another would not, as well as creating harm in order to fulfill expectations.
However that is not what I was trying to discuss at all. I was trying to get at a more scientific/objective point which is irrespective of socio-cultural influence. That is must sexual activity inherently cause harm, regardless of culture?
That is what I was getting at when I would refer to it as "general sexual activity" or "sex itself".
This objective assessment is important as it does affect how people assign blame or wrong. Homosexuals would argue that despite cultural views of it as harmful, there is no intrinsic harm in homosexual activity, and so should not be considered wrong. To data that might point to a correlation between homosexuality and harm, they would argue that it is culturally created (a cultural artifact) and so not a problem of homosexuality per se.
They would demand that evidence be built up to show that there is an intrinsic harm from the physical acts themselves. This is arguably a more accurate approach, which science is increasingly accepting, which can and should be applied to all sexual acts, including those involving minors.
With this all in mind let me propose another statement...
"There is no evidence that sexual activity inherently causes harm, regardless of age of participants, except through negligent or irresponsible behavior."
The last part refers to not taking precautions or regarding common sense physical limits (though not intentionally trying to break them, which would overtly be acts of rape or violence and not sex).
To the phrase above could also be added:
"However there is evidence that harm can be generated by environmental factors in which any particular sex act takes place, such as use of violence and fear as well as the general expectations and moral labels cultures may impose on sex acts."
This would take care of your concerns for allowing cultures to define their own harm, yet recognize it is generated from the environment they have created.
Maybe we are closer to agreement.

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)
"Don't believe I'm taken in by stories I have heard, I just read the Daily News and swear by every word.."(Steely Dan)

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Silent H
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Message 11 of 16 (177206)
01-15-2005 4:36 AM
Reply to: Message 10 by Shaz
01-14-2005 9:13 PM


What's funny is that you seem to some away with each post sort of down. I am only seeing a movement toward a center, with perhaps a few arguable personal prefs.
The only problem I see is that you are perhaps pushing this more toward conclusion about harm, rather than creating a statement regarding evidence. That is not necessarily wrong but the whole thing was generated about a statement of what scientific evidence we have regarding harm.
I freely admit that any comment such as that will be limited by the knowledge base of the speaker, but that happens in all fields and can be challenged by people with a broader knowledge base.
I guess I also think you are bringing in a few irrelevant factors (such as inability to assess risk... that itself does not create a harm, as well as STDs since they are not an inherent part of sexual activity), but your final statements are not anything I would disagree with at all.
This sounds almost perfect...
"Sexual activity does not cause harm, unless subjectively viewed to do so."
To make it perfect (in order to address what I was getting at) I'd rather it read like...
"Current evidence indicates that sexual activity does not inherently cause harm, regardless of age, unless subjectively viewed to do so."
Or maybe more accurately...
"Currently there is no evidence to suggest that sexual activity inherently causes harm, regardless of age, unless subjectively viewed to do so."
Now since evidence is continually updated, and I may be unaware of a study (perhaps from another nation), this could be wrong, but it is as right as my saying "current evidence is that time travel is impossible given modern technology". A person may always challenge my statement regarding the actual state of current evidence.
I do need to stick in "regardless of age" for the purpose of the discussion at hand. I do agree it could be left out in general statements regarding sex.
end note: I did disagree with your argument about "cause of" for sex and STDs, but that is minor, wholly semantic preference, and will only throw us off topic so I'll drop it.

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)
"Don't believe I'm taken in by stories I have heard, I just read the Daily News and swear by every word.."(Steely Dan)

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Silent H
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Message 14 of 16 (177480)
01-16-2005 6:05 AM
Reply to: Message 12 by Shaz
01-15-2005 4:42 PM


Not sure what you mean here, but I read it that you are saying I am down, as in mood.
I meant that the messages ended on a down note, that is to say that you are skeptical that we will reach an agreement.
I didn't share that feeling until this last reply. As I said I was willing to agree with the statement you had mentioned in the reply before this, but it needed to be tweaked in order to actually address what I was saying at the time (the statement you initially disagreed with). I do not actually understand your hesitation to use how I tweaked it given your arguments.
I completely concur that if someone wanted to just make a blanket generalization about sex, kind of a general pronouncement, then the one you had come up with is fine.
The problem is that I was not just making a blank statement, I was reacting to a specific situation. There were already generalizations made, which I will note that you did not react to, that any and all sex involving children under a certain age was harmful. I believe there were even statements that there was evidence for this (though I could stand corrected on that).
In that context your general statement would not act as a rebuttal. I was trying to make a statement regarding the actual state of scientific knowledge (as far as I am aware) on the effects of sex on children. Indeed you later claimed that there was evidence that children were harmed by sex, but now in this post you seem to be undercutting your own position (which is to say that you can make such a generalized statement).
Yes I do agree that definitions and methods of measurement of sexual activity and harm will have subjective components. I disagree that they cannot be focused such that we get down to whether it is the sexual contact itself which is causing a specific set of physical and psychological harm. I also disagree that evidence is subjective. What counts as evidence could be, but once fixed as criteria, the absence or presence of evidence should be quite objective.
...
Shoot I was hoping to be able to give you a full response today, but I ran out of time. I'll try and get back to you later tonight, or tomorrow. Sorry about that. I guess I should have answered your post first.
This message has been edited by holmes, 01-16-2005 06:07 AM

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)
"Don't believe I'm taken in by stories I have heard, I just read the Daily News and swear by every word.."(Steely Dan)

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Silent H
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Message 16 of 16 (177862)
01-17-2005 1:39 PM
Reply to: Message 15 by Shaz
01-16-2005 9:00 AM


If you intended for this to be over, you found the way to do it. Cheers Holmes.
Actually I was cut off in the middle of writing. It seems though that we may be at an agreeable end, since it seems we both accept the general statement you made.
My only real problem is the subjective demands on talking about evidence...
The implication you are making that I have not supported my case, I feel is unfounded and unfair.
Actually my point was not that you cannot present some kind of evidence, just that your argument for the subjectiveness of evidence means that you really can't say you have evidence either.
I hope you see what I am saying. This is less about the issue of harm, and about the nature of evidence. You were arguing for such a subjective position that it seems no one is capable of making and argument regarding it... except to say "I think".
In the end we could ultimately agree that everything is subjective, but we can also start excluding situations in tests to pinpoint a specific target of our subjective research.
When I made my statement in the other thread I was assuming a somewhat agreed upon position of what "evidence" and "harm" and "general sexual activity itself" would refer to (or what we would subjectively appeal to). The posters I responded to had and afterward continued to use the same criteria I would for those terms.
For example if we use the extreme subjective position you advocated, when posters said there was no harm from homosexuality (or no evidence there is harm from homosexuality) they would be wrong.
It is unlikely that my opponents would agree to that assessment.
Some criteria can be agreed upon in order to start narrowing conditions down. Lets take as an exercise, whether the possibility of STDs is not an intrinsic part of any sexual act. That is to say can we say that sex itself causes the potential for acquiring an STD?
In a healthy population (no STDs) no sexual act will result in even a potential spread of an STD. Likewise in a population with STDs where people understand their state of health and do not have sex if they have (or may have) an STD, then any sexual contact will not pose a potential threat. It is only within a population where STDs exist and people have sex without regard for sexual health, where sex becomes a potential risk for an STD.
That is why those advocating for the nonharm of homosexuality will say that STDs are not a measure of whether homosexual sex itself may cause harm.
Next we can talk about use of force or negligent sexual practices. Homosexuals can and do rape other men. They are also capable of exceeding the physical limits of a partner by not taking care of what is physically happening during sexual activity.
Yet those in defense of homosexuality will say this is not general sexual activity itself which is being discussed. It is clearly a subset of how one can use sex which is not inherent to choosing to have sex, or something that just "might happen" if one engages in sex. There must be a choice by one partner to disregard what is occurring to another during the sexual act.
This is why in my first reply I ruled out scenarios of overt rape and fear, and later added negligence. The people I was talking with surely would. In that subjective context I would consider my original comment appropriate, as well as the altered general comment regarding sex within this thread.
I am thinking that maybe instead of evidence, perhaps it would be more appropriate to say "studies" or "results of studies".
Hope this makes sense.
Yes indeed you are right here, and at the time it was a matter of weighing up the heaviest...
Okay that makes a lot of sense, everyone does have to choose their battles, especially around here.
People are not statistics, or numbers, death, disease, pain, shame, humiliation, are not all measured scientifically. Playing tug of war games in relation to people, is damaging not just to the victim but also to the perpetrator.
Agreed.

holmes
"...what a fool believes he sees, no wise man has the power to reason away.."(D. Bros)
"Don't believe I'm taken in by stories I have heard, I just read the Daily News and swear by every word.."(Steely Dan)

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