On feeling sorry for people

Hey Robin,Next time you see a mother cling in desparation to the coffin of her dead child as they prepare to bury it in the ground don't bother having "your heart go out to her" - go over and talk to her. Listen to her anguish, row in there alongside her and try and work up the same grief that she has so you can avoid being patronising. Tell her that "time heals all wounds" and the like. Offer to contribute to the costs of the funeral. Like: do something man!Or maybe you see such things in the context you saw those vets as somehow patronising? What your heart was going out to was ever so larger than "Hey old timer - fancy a smoke... and tell me, is war really Hell?"All this ridicule you face. Great practice for being a Christian...The Lord does work in mysterious ways (and I mean that not at all patronising. Prophetically I hope)

Why don't you two start up a game here. "Knight to King Bishop 4" and all that. Or is it as the tramp on the street says:"I don't take cheques mate"

I watched Saving Private Ryan last night. A great line from it springs to mind:"Its like looking for a needle in a stack of needles"I had gathered that Jars moral code (gleaned from many posts on the matter) involved trying ones best. Not getting it right all the time but trying to get it right. Presumably then, Jar would fail to do the called for thing from time to time. And would employ some lame excuse at the time on the road to failing to do the called for thing.What Jar would probably admit to that your failing to grab the bull by the horns is something he himself does. That there is no judgementalism going on because he fails in the very same way - just using different excuses than you do.