it's really no different than "women, obey your husbands" and with an even better reason. if the man is providing for her, she should respect his wishes more than her own. if she is providing for him, the opposite is true.
further, why should one be intimate and open with someone who is disgracing him?
and honor their husbands during their absence
if nothing else, this sounds like unfaithfulness. why should you be with your wife if she's fucking around?