Hello EVC'ers
When I recently became active again on Facebook I swore to myself I'd avoid politics and religion. However, it didn't take long before my status updates moved away from mundane tat like "Charlie Sheen is an idiot" to "Kirk Cameron and his pet crocoduck are idiots". As the weeks went on I felt more comfortable bringing up political and religious issues.
Now, in the last 2-3 weeks, I've managed to completely alienate one family member (based on political comments) and create a rift with my own mother (based on religious comments). I should point out that none of my comments were mean-spirited IMHO, but they were perhaps blunt.
I feel a weird mix of anger, resentment and victimisation as a result:
Anger because I should be able to express my feelings/opinions on my own wall in Facebook without repercussion.
Resentment because I feel like my mother is disappointed in me due to my atheism, whereas in my opinion she should be proud that I am thinking for myself rather than just following the flock.
Victimisation because I don't see why I should be cornered and scolded for my atheism, which should be, in my view, the default position we all start our existence with.
We
decide at some point in our lives to believe in a God... usually at a very young age... usually based on nothing more than the fact that our parents and peers hold such beliefs. Some of us later decide that such deep beliefs should not be simply handed down carte blanche, but rather should be independently arrived at after thorough and robust examination.
So... I wish that my mother could be very, very proud of me... for engaging in a sceptical evaluation of these deep and important matters, for using my brain to think rather than my gut, for being an independent thinker rather than a sheep. Instead... I get the feeling I'm a disappointment to her... one whom she might describe as a lost, corrupted or confused.
It's NOT FAIR lol.
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