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Message 61 of 108 (334412)
07-22-2006 9:12 PM
Reply to: Message 57 by Omnivorous
07-21-2006 10:04 PM


Re: Pre-Lapsarian Marriage?
I said that marriage is done in different ways, by different customs in different places.
Okay.
But I'm genuinely curious--what form did Adam & Eve's marriage take? Were they made married at the moment of Eve's creation, at their expulsion from the Garden, or somewhere in between, say, rolling in the holy clover?
Probably from the rolling -- like the customs where marriage begins with the man taking the woman into his tent. But I don't know. All I know is that Jesus spoke of marriage as beginning with the Creation.
I had always assumed they were sexually innocent (i.e., inactive) in the Garden (though Milton seems to disagree) since they didn't even know they were naked.
All their "knowing" it means is that they weren't ashamed of it until they disobeyed. Nakedness throughout the Bible is a symbol of sins being exposed to God's judgment, and salvation from sin is often symbolized by a "covering" or "garment" that protects against judgment. God's covering them with animal skins is further taken to be a symbol of the sacrifices needed to pay for salvation, ultimately of Jesus' once-for-all sacrifice. God substituted the skins for their fig leaves, which covered them physically but couldn't cover them spiritually.
If you don't mind my asking, Faith, what's your marriage history?
To paraphrase Father Sarducci on the Pope, do you want to make-a the rules when you don't play-a the game?
Just this morning, on the absolute morality thread, recognizing anew the rampant subjectivism in our world these days, I made a decision to completely ignore all personal questions in the midst of an argument because they are irrelevant and only feed the worst habits generated by postmodern relativism. It's nothing but a sanctified ad hominem. If you can't make your point on the argument itself it can't be made.
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Message 62 of 108 (334420)
07-22-2006 9:52 PM
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07-22-2006 9:12 PM


Re: Pre-Lapsarian Marriage?
Thanks for the thoughts on Edenic marriage. It's difficult to know what a believer will declare to be symbolic, you see.
Faith writes:
Just this morning, on the absolute morality thread, recognizing anew the rampant subjectivism in our world these days, I made a decision to completely ignore all personal questions
Gee, I must be physic! What amazing timing!
Still fair enough, I suppose--except that your supporting arguments are generally rooted in your subjective experience of a personal God.
It's nothing but a sanctified ad hominem. If you can't make your point on the argument itself it can't be made.
Oh, I think I can make my points without ad hominem fallacies, m'lady--do you not? (SANCTIFY MY FALLACY! may soon appear on a bumper sticker near you...)
Hypocrisy, along with other self-indulgences, hides best among abstract arguments that eschew personal testimony and example. We weren't really having a debate here, but I think you've answered my question well enough.

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Message 63 of 108 (334426)
07-22-2006 10:16 PM
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07-22-2006 9:52 PM


Re: Pre-Lapsarian Marriage?
Still fair enough, I suppose--except that your supporting arguments are generally rooted in your subjective experience of a personal God.
That's not how I see it.

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Message 64 of 108 (334427)
07-22-2006 10:18 PM


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    Message 65 of 108 (334767)
    07-24-2006 8:08 AM
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    07-22-2006 9:12 PM


    logical inconsistancy - wota surprise.
    Probably from the rolling -- like the customs where marriage begins with the man taking the woman into his tent.
    So anything between {rape} and {consensual sex} constitutes a "ceremony" of marriage -- as long as it is for heterosexuals.
    Don't you get tired of equivocating?
    Low let's discuss all ceremonies that are more "binding" than that ... including hindu marriages etc. to "civil" ceremonies where there is a contract between two people to share resources and to care for each other (THAT is lacking in your example, but appears in Hindu marriages and homosexual ceremonies in other countries).
    Enjoy - it's your fantasy.
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    Message 66 of 108 (335004)
    07-24-2006 9:02 PM
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    07-17-2006 4:01 PM


    Other Traditions Other Ways: Wiccans
    What I don't understand is why homosexuals are being persecuted over this more than many other people who lead equally immoral lifestyles according to the bible.
    I take this to be your driving theme, of which Hindu Marriage is just an example. Let's investigate what is involved in other traditions and other ways of bonding between peoples:
    Wiccan\Pagan Weddings (also involving multiple gods and goddesses, and the source of the christian "witch" myths etc)
    FROM: The History of Handfasting (click)
    Handfasting at one time was the only way that couples could be engaged and/or get married because the church let the civil government of the period take care of these matters. In the British Isles, Handfasting was the old pagan ritual of marriage and it remained legal in Scotland all the way up to 1939, even after Lord Harwicke’s Act of 1753 declaring that marriages in England were legal only if performed by a clergyman. After Lord Harwicke’s Act, the Scottish border town, Gretna Green became a mecca for eloping couples from England who fled there to perform their own Handfastings. In those times, the couple themselves performed the Handfasting before witnesses. It was also used in Scotland for the engagement period of a year and a day before a wedding was proved.
    The very word handfasting got it's origin in the wedding custom of tying the bride and groom's hands (actually, wrists) together. In some versions, this is only done for as long as the ceremony lasts, but in others, the cord is not untied until the marriage is physically consummated.
    Handfasting is the marriage rite used toady by many Heathens, neo-Pagans and Wiccans. The term itself comes from the custom of shaking hands over a contract. It is a custom steeped in old tradition.
    In most Pagan traditions today it may mean a non-state registered wedding or one in which a marriage license is filed. For some it is a year and a day, renewable "so long as love shall last" and for others a commitment to be together through many lives.
    ...Before the church took over these duties, these things were overseen by the whole community and therefore were set in law by their witnessing what happened between the couple making the promise
    Note the reference to contract and to the ceremony being a civil government function before the church took over this function.
    FROM: A Wiccan Marriage (click)
    Some people within the Craft want a legal marriage performed in their tradition. They want the hand fasting to be recognized by our mundane legal system.
    Legal marriages are governed by statutes in each state. You need a marriage license and you need to comply with all the rules involved in getting one. Then you need someone to act as a representative of the state to "solemnize your vows." This looks a lot like a spell. The officiant, who has previously established certain external connections, will say a blessing that brings into being this life passage following your exchange of vows.
    What makes the marriage legal is civil laws, not any religious traditions.
    And example of a ceremony can be found at
    http://www.ecauldron.com/handfast2.php
    I did not find any reference to having sex let alone children, but there was reference to:
    • pledging that the union will be one of perfect love and perfect trust
    • granting them the deepest of love and richness of Body, of Soul, and of Spirit for so long as they desire to remain together.
    • stating their desire to be united, one with the other, and making a pledge and testimony to their love and commitment to each other.
    • the ceremony symbolizing the bonding of their souls, energy, and life force; that throughout their life together, they may know of nothing but each other's joy and love, in perfect balance and peace.
    ... you get the idea.
    Now why is wiccan marriage less evil than gay marriage?
    This is a cultural tradition of temporary marriages? Or one more honest about human behavior?
    Enjoy
    ps -- this is not a reference to 'fisting' ...

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    Message 67 of 108 (335038)
    07-24-2006 10:49 PM
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    07-22-2006 10:16 PM


    Added note.
    In the previous message I discussed the Wiccan Marriage issue as another point of comparison (Hindu being the one in the OP).
    I also e-mailed "spelcaster" from one site:
    In a message dated 7/24/06 7:16:58 PM Eastern Daylight Time, RAZD writes:
    Just curious, involved in the debate on gay marriage on a forum that is asking why fundamental Christians seem more upset about gay marriage than any other marriage that does not conform to their (narrow) standards.
    Do you (personally\professionally) object to gay marriage? Would you perform one were it legal in your state?
    Dear Raz:
    Yes, I have already performed a gay hand fasting and if folks can get a license, I'm open.
    The Fundies in their patriarchal world seem to have a problem with loosing control. If the boys won't stay in line and behave, they see a big problem. Some used to wonder if women even had souls.
    B*B, Spel
    So there you have it, a belief system that does not exclude gays from the SAME ceremony as is used for heterosexuals.
    Does this now make Wiccan marriage worse?
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    Message 68 of 108 (335111)
    07-25-2006 7:35 AM
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    07-24-2006 9:02 PM


    Re: Other Traditions Other Ways: Wiccans
    Now why is wiccan marriage less evil than gay marriage?
    Because apparently it unites only heterosexuals, which is the purpose of marriage.

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    Message 69 of 108 (335113)
    07-25-2006 7:39 AM
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    07-24-2006 10:49 PM


    Re: Added note.
    So there you have it, a belief system that does not exclude gays from the SAME ceremony as is used for heterosexuals.
    Does this now make Wiccan marriage worse?
    Odd question. It wouldn't affect hetero marriages, just as usual the whole concept of marriage and therefore the whole social fabric. Gay marriage is a travesty in and of itself.
    Also it's an odd idea you seem to be implying, that a contemporary group that is willing to marry gays would constitute an exception to 6000 years of cross-cultural heterosexual marriage, especially one that particularly disdains Biblical Christianity.
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    Message 70 of 108 (335161)
    07-25-2006 12:46 PM
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    07-25-2006 7:39 AM


    Re: Added note.
    Faith writes:
    Also it's an odd idea you seem to be implying, that a contemporary group that is willing to marry gays would constitute an exception to 6000 years of cross-cultural heterosexual marriage, especially one that particularly disdains Biblical Christianity.
    I'm not sure I understand what you mean here? How is a group that wants to marry homosexuals not an exception to the "rule" of "no groups throughout history married homosexuals"?
    Also, what relevance is past history? You implied yourself that you would be more than will to change cultural traditions if you thought that those traditions were wrong. This shows that past tradition is not relevant to anything. There always has to be a "first time", otherwise we would be no different to early civilizations 5-10 thousand years ago.

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    Message 71 of 108 (335167)
    07-25-2006 1:04 PM
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    07-25-2006 12:46 PM


    Re: Added note.
    I'm not sure I understand what you mean here? How is a group that wants to marry homosexuals not an exception to the "rule" of "no groups throughout history married homosexuals"?
    Because the whole argument is based on TODAY's unprecedented push to do what was never done before. That people TODAY are willing to do it is taken for granted. Everybody's nuts these days. But historically marriage crossculturally was for heterosexuals. Even if the occasional depraved group sometimes married homosexuals, the incidence had to be something like 1 in 10 million which is a good definition of aberrance.
    Also, what relevance is past history? You implied yourself that you would be more than will to change cultural traditions if you thought that those traditions were wrong.
    That's correct, and I don't think the rule against marrying homosexuals is wrong. Marriage is for male and female. That's the whole point of it.
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    Message 72 of 108 (335199)
    07-25-2006 2:48 PM
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    07-25-2006 1:04 PM


    Re: Added note.
    Faith writes:
    That's correct, and I don't think the rule against marrying homosexuals is wrong. Marriage is for male and female. That's the whole point of it.
    Oh I know you think it's wrong, that's why we're having this discussion But my point was that we're getting sidetracked on past tradition. People think you're implying that we shouldn't change the rule because of past tradition, so they are busy trying to show you where it was allowed in the past.
    But that isn't impressing you, because I get the impression that even if every culture in the past had allowed it you still wouldn't want it happening now. So our time would be better spent discussing exactly why you don't think homosexual marriage is acceptable, rather than getting sidetracked on this red-herring.

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    Message 73 of 108 (335201)
    07-25-2006 2:52 PM
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    07-25-2006 2:48 PM


    Re: Added note.
    No, if there were impressive precedent I would have to concede, but I haven't seen anything that approaches even minimally convincing precedent. A few nowhere cultures and Nero.
    But you are right that isn't my only argument, and another is that gay marriage is wrong and is only going to contribute to the continued degeneration of the West. What made the West great was basically the Christian mentality that lifted Europe out of primitive heathen tribalism, and put some restraints on fallen human nature.
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    Message 74 of 108 (335205)
    07-25-2006 3:01 PM
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    07-25-2006 2:52 PM


    I don't think numbers matter
    Faith writes:
    No, if there were impressive precedent I would have to concede, but I haven't seen anything that approaches even minimally convincing precedent. A few nowhere cultures and Nero.
    But you are right that isn't my only argument, and another is that gay marriage is wrong and is only going to contribute to the continued degeneration of the West. What made the West great was basically the Christian mentality that lifted Europe out of primitive heathen tribalism, and put some restraints on fallen human nature.
    Wow, fast reply lol. Anyway I think you'd be giving up too easily by giving in to past occurences. If you have a rational reason to be against homosexual marriage then the number of people doing it in the past wouldn't alter that. The only reason I can think of for giving in because of how many people did it in the past is if your only/main argument is "We shouldn't do it because no one did it before".

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    Message 75 of 108 (335208)
    07-25-2006 3:12 PM
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    07-25-2006 3:01 PM


    Re: I don't think numbers matter
    I'm sure you're right that I'd just move on to another of my arguments if there were appreciable precedent for homosexual marriage. In that case I'd class it with slavery as one of the expressions of fallen human nature we rightly do without.
    All my arguments are based on Biblical revelation of course, but some of them can nevertheless be argued without reference to it. Marriage is as old as history because it was instituted in Eden, you see.
    {Edit: Point is I'm trying to find the best arguments for nonbelievers, and I do think the lack of precedent ought to count. That shows that homosexual relationships just aren't normally thought of in the same category as marriage.
    It's harder to make the case to a nonbeliever that the West is deteriorating thanks to our falling away from our Christian roots, wouldn't you say, since you are an unbeliever?
    And of course if I appeal to Leviticus and Deuteronomy, forget it.
    But of course I don't have to argue this at all. It's probably futile.
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