Congrats on meeting a good woman. Sounds like she had some rough stuff so I hope you can help her recover.
I've had some bad run-ins with Southern Baptists before... I would consider the general SB to be a fundamentalist, which in my experience all hate me. Kudos to you for surviving that mess.
Anyways, like Loudmouth said, you can believe in God and in His infinite Love and Wisdom without believing in the husband-beating-his wife-whenever-the-bastard-thinks-it-appropriate thing.
If she's worried about salvation all it says in the Christian Holy Scriptures is to accept and love Jesus Christ as your lord and Savior. The little details of the Bible are often in question, sometimes by me, but that Message has not been changed. Amen and God bless to both of you.
And that's the sermon of the day from a preacher in training
Wanna feel God? Step onto the wrestling mat and you'd be crazy to deny the uplifting spirit.