rape culture/victim culture

A fair while back, there was a case of "rape by husband". I believe it was in Oregon, but I may well be wrong. I don't recall how the case came out.Anyhow, what we had was a case of nonconsensual sex within a marriage.1) I don't see how one would "prove" the case one way or the other. It would seem to be very much as she said / he said type thing.2) I would think that such a situation would very much be a cause for divorce, but making a criminal court case out of it seem to be going a bit too far.Bottom line, I do think that conflicts within a family do have a (subtle?) distinction, relative to non-family conflict. You hitting Zhimbo up side the head with a frying pan is not the same as the neighbor doing it.Moose

I think I'm essentially on your side, but...I think there is a real distinction between an act of loss of control stupidity from an otherwise fine person that you know well, and an act of malicious violence from someone you know less or not at all. Of course, there is probably always the "gray area" situation, somewhere between the extremes.MooseThis message has been edited by minnemooseus, 03-22-2005 09:01 PM