Hi Percy!
I finally made it here, and in browsing back through old messages, I came across this question you put to me:
"I'm intrigued, to say the least. Is it that your mother was a homemaker while you're a career woman, or something more dramatic?"
I'm not sure whay your're imagining, Percy, (wink).
Seriously, though, my marriage is different because of the relaxed-to-nonexistent gender role thing, for one. It has less to do with WHAT we do, and more to do with the expectations of who is "supposed" to do what, or who feels responsible for task X.
Jim doesn't expect to never do the laundry, and I don't expect to never wash the car or kill a spider. That kind of thing.
Also, my husband and I are really friends, and we work on our marriage. We stay together because we want to, not because we have to because of a religion.
Mostly I have a different marriage because I work on being a happy fulfilled person, and that is something my parents, particularly my mother, never seemed to be able to be.
Ah, well. I broke the cycle, and that is what is important.
Does that answer things for you, Percy?
Allison
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"Never trust something that thinks for itself if you can't see where it keeps it's brain"--Mr. Weasley