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crashfrog
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Message 6 of 55 (385159)
02-14-2007 12:50 PM
Reply to: Message 5 by Hyroglyphx
02-14-2007 12:44 PM


Therefore, most people do assume that the person they are speaking with is heterosexual. The writer seems as if she has just made some sort of sociological break through here. I guess I don't see the point in the experiment.
The point is - how do you think it feels to be on the other end of that? And to have all the blame for it put on you?
I can't understand how this couldn't be any clearer to you. She spelled it out in the story:
quote:
'm confounded, though, when people ask me why I need to tell people that I am a lesbian or that my partner is a woman.
What part of that statement did you have trouble understanding? I literally can't comprehend how you could miss the point so entirely.

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crashfrog
Member (Idle past 1496 days)
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From: Silver Spring, MD
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Message 27 of 55 (385245)
02-14-2007 7:01 PM
Reply to: Message 10 by Hyroglyphx
02-14-2007 1:19 PM


Re: The point
People feel stigmatized for all sorts of reasons.
Indeed. This is one of them. People are also starving in India. What does that have to do with the price of tea in China?
I mean, what exactly does she want?
You to understand why it's all but impossible to avoid "outing" yourself if you want to be honest and communicative with people. You, to understand that blaming gay people for being "obsessed with being out", or whatever, is bullshit.
If she was just born homosexual and I was just born heterosexual, and its noboady's fault, what exactly am I supposed to feel sorry about?
That nobody accuses you of being "obsessed with your sexuality" when you tell people about your wife, children, etc.
Again, I have to ask - how did you miss the point so badly? You did read the whole article, right?

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