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ringo

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Message 253 of 300 (342815)
08-23-2006 4:49 PM

Reply to: Message 252 by NeuroCycle
08-23-2006 4:35 PM

NeuroCycle writes:

Cute cliche

worthless response

Yes, I meant that your cute cliche was a worthless response.
You might as well have said, "A stitch in time saves nine."

(I'm trying to be gentle here. Don't make me go upside your head again.

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It could turn into:

Young life.

Explain how few regrets would lead to any of that?

I meant that having few regrets might just mean you're very young and haven't had many oppurtunities to screw up yet.

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Message 255 of 300 (342822)
08-23-2006 5:03 PM

Reply to: Message 254 by NeuroCycle
08-23-2006 4:54 PM

NeuroCycle writes:

All those screw ups have had a reason that I learned from and implied to my life

So you'd repeat all same the screwups again?

You claim to learn from your mistakes, yet you don't regret making them.
To my mind, that's self-contradictory.

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Message 257 of 300 (342830)
08-23-2006 5:41 PM

Reply to: Message 256 by NeuroCycle
08-23-2006 5:23 PM

Neurocycle writes:

Regret is pointless

Not at all. Regret is the first step.

Before you can learn from your mistakes, you have to recognize that they were mistakes. You have to want to not repeat them. You have to regret making them.

You don't have to stew in your regrets, but you have to have them.

Without regret, there is no journey, there is no life.

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Message 264 of 300 (342881)
08-24-2006 12:10 AM

Reply to: Message 263 by NeuroCycle
08-23-2006 11:11 PM

NeuroCycle writes:

if you make that mistake/regret a positive life leason, does the regret then get dismissed?

No, I don't think so. You have to "keep" the regret so you remember why you screwed up.

For example, if you hurt somebody in the past, you should keep the regret to prevent you from hurting somebody else in a similar way in the future.

It's something you have to keep working at.
Regret is a tool that should not be thrown away after one use.

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Message 281 of 300 (342976)
08-24-2006 12:13 PM

Reply to: Message 277 by Tusko
08-24-2006 11:45 AM

Tusko writes:

Maybe you come from a small town - but I don't believe that you are physically capable of acknowledging every human you come near.

But I am quite capable of acknowledging all of them.

Every person I pass on the street, I look them in the eye. (Women in particular like being looked in the eye rather than the chest.)

They don't all make eye contact. Some of them avoid it. Many of them don't react at all. Some smile, some say "Hi." Some return my smile, some return my "Hi."

On rare occaisions, we both stop and have a conversation.

It sounds to me that you're doing exactly the same thing, but you seem to feel the need to diminish the value of those "baby steps".

To pass a judgement on him, as some people seemed to, or even with a shake of a metaphorical head to say "you have perhaps missed out on a wonderful conversation" seemed to be a little presumptuous... because there could be any number of reasons that prevented him from talking.

If it's presumptuous, it's presumptuous. Boo hoo. Don't waste posts on it.

to assume that the failure to speak/smile/whatever indicates some kind of character flaw seems weird....

I wish you would point out where I said anything about "character flaws".

Read my lips: I said he missed an oppurtunity. That's all.

I'll say again: I don't know why all the shrinking violets are getting into such a snit about it.

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Message 285 of 300 (343196)
08-25-2006 1:53 AM

Reply to: Message 284 by ReverendDG
08-25-2006 1:11 AM

quoting Tusko, ReverendDG writes:

... we're just talking at cross porpoises

I can't believe I missed that.

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