no. a true calvinist would say that she could be saved and still be an atheist.
I'm not sure what constitutes a mythical "true calvinist". My comment was about what most actual Calvinists would say.
a true calvanist would say she has fallen away and needs church discipline to see the error of her ways. but a true calvanist would not make a judgement on her actual state of salvation because calvinists know that salvation is a matter between god and an individual... and not a matter for the church-or our dear friend faith-to decide.
Her break with Christianity looks pretty complete and rather final. It goes a lot further than simple backsliding, or ceasing involvement in the Church. She is actively atheist. It would be difficult for any actual Calvinists to consider that she is still a saved Christian. It is far easier to conclude that they were mistaken in their prior belief that she was saved.
i've been studying deep calvinist doctrine for 15 years. i started going to adult bible study with my parents when i was 7. i have discussed these things with church elders.
I studied it for many years too.
What was being discussed was not Calvinist doctrine, but behavior of typical Calvinist people.
this is why i asked faith what kind of church she goes to.
You asked it in such a way that it sounded like "You're wrong, now tell me your Church so I can gloat over it". You probably didn't intend to come across that way.
the thing is you're both misunderstanding perseverence of the saints.
See above. I was commenting on likely behavior, not on doctrine. I think Faith was doing the same.