That is an interesting story and I'm glad you shared it with us.
I can't say how I would have acted in your exact situation with your neighbor, but I have been wronged by other a few times before, including being robbed. When I was younger, I could be easily described as "hot-headed." I was never violent (except with a couple of walls *ouch*), but I got upset and frustrated pretty easily and so when I was wronged I could get quite angry. I was a very aggressive driver as well. I wouldn't say there was a specific moment when I realized the folly and destructive power of my anger, but as I grew older I think I just grew up. I still get frustrated at times, but I have learned to forgive others when they wrong me and have also learned to recognize when I am at fault in a situation where I would have formerly placed the blame on someone else for "making" me feel a certain way.
I have also done some pretty stupid things (including, like you, getting heavily involved in drugs and causing a motor accident due to careless driving, oh, and getting a DUI - all many years ago) and gotten myself into runs of "bad luck." As I have gotten older I realize that most of my "bad luck" comes from mistakes and/or bad choices I have made. I have learned very valuable lessons, grown out of my youthful navete and anger and come to make better, smarter choices in my life - not perfect, just better and better all the time. Unless something is completely out of my control, I take responsibility for the decisions I make and how I feel when bad things happen or people are mean and don't chalk it up to "fate" or "bad luck" or blame my misery on someone else.
I am generally very happy and I enjoy my life and am working to improve myself, help others and learn something new every day.
The difference between you and me is that I didn't need God to do it. I am not saying that I am better because of that, but that it is not necessary to believe in God in order to make a change in your life.
We all know when we are unhappy and we all have a little voice trying to tell us what to do. I just attribute that little voice to me. It sounds like me and everything!
I trust myself to do the right thing and I can forgive myself and ask for forgiveness from others when I make mistakes.
If I may ask, would you say that you might have changed your attitude without God just because you were "ready?" You felt at rock bottom and knew(?) that
something had to change. Do you feel that you could have done that yourself or if you had happened into a Buddhist Temple or an Islamic tract (do they have those?) that described a way out of your misery that you would have followed one of those paths or any of the alternatives available out there?
"You are metaphysicians. You can prove anything by metaphysics; and having done so, every metaphysician can prove every other metaphysician wrong--to his own satisfaction. You are anarchists in the realm of thought. And you are mad cosmos-makers. Each of you dwells in a cosmos of his own making, created out of his own fancies and desires. You do not know the real world in which you live, and your thinking has no place in the real world except in so far as it is phenomena of mental aberration." -
The Iron Heel by Jack London