Okay, how else am I to objectively reconcile the repeated changes I've seen in my own life and that of countless others in my church and elsewhere that compliment what I see in the bible.
With statistics and basic sociology. It's pretty simple, really - the idea is to keep accurate records and interpret them in such a way as your own personal experience doesn't enter into it. After all I can't reproduce your personal experience. I can reproduce your statistics, if I know your methodology.
I know some are inclined to dismiss personal testimonies by saying "well, I know of people that left Christianity and are now much happier." But this does nothing offer an objective explanation for the radical personal testimonies some churches are littered with.
Sure it does. It suggests that different people are happiest in different communities. That, in fact, they may not feel part of a community
at all in the wrong community, and that discovering the community that's right for them has a profound effect on their behavior and outlook on the world. No need for untestable divine entities with that explanation, either. And it explains all the data, not just the experience of believers or atheists. It explains them both.