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Nuggin
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Message 66 of 284 (626811)
07-31-2011 1:20 PM
Reply to: Message 64 by Dr Adequate
07-31-2011 1:12 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Of course, some bisexuals do not in fact have sex with women: for example, those who are teenagers and have not yet got lucky. But that was not of course my point.
Yes and some heterosexual children have never had sex with anyone for nearly a decade! OMGBBQ
Obviously we aren't going to compare and contrast the sex lives of children as some sort of determining agent.
No, that is not what I was claiming. You can kinda tell that by the way I didn't claim it.
Well, you objected to my description of bi-sexuals are homosexuals who additionally have sex with women. Yet, you are acknowledging that they do have sex with women.
So, are you arguing that bi-sexuals don't have sex with men?
Or are you willing to concede that bi-sexuals have sex with both men and women?

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Nuggin
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Message 67 of 284 (626814)
07-31-2011 1:28 PM
Reply to: Message 65 by Modulous
07-31-2011 1:14 PM


Re: You don't get it.
But claiming that bisexuals are homosexuals who have sex with women because they are 'too full of themselves' to limit their options is sometimes known as bisexual erasure. I'd characterise it as biphobia of a similar magnitude that saying that lesbians are straight women that just need a good rogering.
First off, I agree that Erasure is a band which largely appeals to bi-sexuals.
Secondly, if one group wants to isolate themselves from the whole then they run the risk of being ignored.
If the Branch Davidians don't want to be known as "Protestant" as opposed to "Catholic", but rather want to be classified as their own group, then they end up with less voice and less power.
What's next? Will bi-sexuals split into three different groups?
bi-sexuals who strictly have straight sex and never gay sex but still want to be called bi-sexual.
bi sexuals who strictly have gay sex and never straight sex but still want to be called bi-sexual.
bi-sexuals who actually engage in sex with both groups
Why not split further and be "bi-sexuals who have sex more often with men" vs "bi-sexuals who have sex more often with women" vs "bi-sexuals we are absolutely even"
Then why not split even further, to "bi sexuals who have sex with men but want to have more sex with women only they don't like the girls they have been meeting and does anyone know anyone they can be introduced to" vs the "bisexuals who have met plenty of nice women but who refuse to date anyone who's not Jewish"
The more you split your special interest, the less interest anyone is going to pay to your group because no one thinks you're all that special.
As someone that enjoys gay porn, straight porn and bisexual porn, as someone who has been in a straight relationship faithfully for 10 years, as someone that enjoys the feel of an erect cock as much as I enjoy a good pair of tits - I do find your understanding of bisexuality to be a little myopic.
Bi-sexuality could use a good does of myopithism (dips if that's not already a word).
Stop trying to re-label every single individual, get behind a single cause and work as a team.
In fighting is what has kept social issues down for the entire history of the world.

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Nuggin
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Message 71 of 284 (626836)
07-31-2011 3:49 PM
Reply to: Message 68 by Dr Adequate
07-31-2011 1:31 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Golly, you do know how to miss a point, don't you?
Well, I admit, I've having a lot of trouble following you.
You seem to be complaining that I referred to bi-sexuals are homosexuals who also have sex with women. Yet, you admit that they do in fact have sex with women. You also admit that they have homosexual sex.
Would you be happier if we referred to bi-sexuals as heterosexuals who aren't heterosexual?

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Nuggin
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Message 73 of 284 (626839)
07-31-2011 3:55 PM
Reply to: Message 69 by Dr Adequate
07-31-2011 1:45 PM


Re: You don't get it.
If this is really an obstacle to social reform, then it is one that we must figure out a way to overcome. But I thought that the existence of diversity was the whole point.
Here's how you overcome it.
Stop bitching to the people who are supporting you. Stop complaining that you aren't getting a special label all for yourself.
During the civil rights movement, you didn't see a bunch of "half blacks" complaining about "half black" rights. You didn't see yet another groups of "1/4 blacks" complaining about "1/4 black rights". Nor "1/8ths".
You didn't have the 1/4 blacks attacking the supporters of civil rights because those supporters weren't taking special care to say: "There shouldn't be segregation between black and white, AND ALSO there shouldn't be segregation between 1/4 blacks and whites".
When your special interest group gets so full of itself that it starts attacking supporters instead of opposition, you end up getting exactly what you deserve. Nothing.
So, instead of fighting for gay rights, you are now asking people to fight for gay AND bisexual rights.
Giving people option of supporting one and rejecting the other.
If you just stuck to "straight sex" vs "everything else" and said "everything else gets rights too", you would already be done.
Instead you've got to split hairs and then split them again, and again and again and further and further, until anyone who is trying to support anything gets so fed up with the bullshit they walk away.

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Nuggin
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Message 74 of 284 (626840)
07-31-2011 3:58 PM
Reply to: Message 70 by Modulous
07-31-2011 2:15 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Do you get all huffy about sadomasochists? Do they like to cause pain 10% and receive it 90%?
I will when I come out in support of their life style only to be bitched at by the "sado's" who don't want to be lumped in with the "sadomasochists" because they choose to be SLIGHTLY different and therefore want special treatment.
Notice NO ONE is fighting for Bi-Sexual marriage. There's NO SUCH THING.
Keep splitting yourself into smaller and smaller groups and you are gonna get left behind by people who don't want to bother having to appease every little bitchy subgroup along the way

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Nuggin
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Message 75 of 284 (626841)
07-31-2011 3:59 PM
Reply to: Message 70 by Modulous
07-31-2011 2:15 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Then might I suggest you don't accuse bisexuals of being 'too full of themselves' and call them 'homosexuals'. How about you simply acknowledge that such people actually exist?
Sure. They exist. They exist in the same way that vegetarians who eat meat exist.

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Nuggin
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Message 77 of 284 (626843)
07-31-2011 4:02 PM
Reply to: Message 72 by hooah212002
07-31-2011 3:53 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Why not just refer to them as bi-sexual?
I did. I just pointed out that they are a sub-set of homosexuals and everyone had a sh1t explosion.

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Nuggin
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Message 81 of 284 (626848)
07-31-2011 4:14 PM
Reply to: Message 79 by hooah212002
07-31-2011 4:06 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Why are they not heterosexuals who also enjoy partaking in gay sex? Why are they part of the homosexual subset?
How DARE you claim that bi-sexuals are heterosexuals who have gay sex!
Get him! He doubted the special secret bi-sexual definition! Quick, before he tries to support equality!

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Nuggin
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Message 83 of 284 (626854)
07-31-2011 4:44 PM
Reply to: Message 82 by Modulous
07-31-2011 4:27 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Then why call them 'homosexuals that are too full of themselves'?
Because they tend to spend an awful lot of time trying to explain the particulars of their sexual desires.
If they weren't full of themselves, then it would be "okay I'm gay. I have sex with women sometimes".
By the way, LOTS of gay guys have had sex with women, they don't identify themselves as Bi or "Used to be BI"
The "bi" community seems chock a block with people who want to stop you and say "well, I'm a part of this special group with a special label, because I like this and this and this other thing."
They just can't let it go. Can they?

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Nuggin
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Message 92 of 284 (626893)
07-31-2011 7:15 PM
Reply to: Message 84 by hooah212002
07-31-2011 4:46 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Nuggin, I was asking YOU that question since YOU postulated that bi-sexual persons are just gays that happen to sometimes sleep with the opposite sex.
We don't talk about bi-sexual marriage. We don't talk about bi-sexual rights. We don't talk about bi-sexual-dar.
Just like people from England are Europeans who live in England, bi-sexuals are gays that have sex with opposite sex partners as well.
They are a sub-category.

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Nuggin
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Message 93 of 284 (626895)
07-31-2011 7:18 PM
Reply to: Message 85 by fearandloathing
07-31-2011 4:47 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Does this not seem a little over-simplistic to you?
Not at all. My whole point being that if someone is full of themselves, they are too self involved to allow something like a group label to occur.
A self involved vegetarian is a "lacto-ovo-Vegan", or "a vegetarian who will eat fresh water fish", or "I'm on a special diet that excludes things with faces, but snails and clams are okay".
OMG! Enough already. Just say "vegetarian" and be done with it! You don't have to spend so much time and energy trying to carve out a special little place for yourself - it's _self involved_.

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Nuggin
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Message 94 of 284 (626896)
07-31-2011 7:19 PM
Reply to: Message 86 by hooah212002
07-31-2011 4:52 PM


Re: You don't get it.
What large group of bisexual people are you referring to?
Apparently the group that insists that they aren't gay at all, and they shouldn't be deemed gay just because they have sex with the same sex. Why? Because "we're special and deserve a special label for our special group."
Self involved.

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Nuggin
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Message 97 of 284 (626899)
07-31-2011 7:27 PM
Reply to: Message 87 by Modulous
07-31-2011 5:04 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Biphobes
THIS is what I'm talking about.
SELF INVOLVED!
Oh my GOD! Someone who points out that your group is involved in gay sex and we're somehow AFRAID OF YOU?!
LOL. Give me a F'in break.
The problem here is you are so self involved you can't handle the idea of being "gay plus". You need to be your own special little group. "We're not gay, we enjoy sex with dudes AND..."
That's GAY PLUS! _GAY_ plus _X_.
You could be "straight plus" but since no one is lumping you in with the straights and fighting for "straight marriage" or "straight rights" or "hate crime protection for the straights", you aren't going to get any of that super important attention that you crave so much.

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Nuggin
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Message 98 of 284 (626901)
07-31-2011 7:31 PM
Reply to: Message 88 by Dr Adequate
07-31-2011 5:47 PM


Re: You don't get it.
You didn't have anyone denying the existence of mixed-race people either. Maybe they weren't stark raving mad.
There are only two groups of people. People who have sex with the opposite sex exclusively. People who have sex with the same sex exclusively.
There isn't anyone who has sex with both groups.
_THAT_ would be denying you exist.
_THIS_ is what I was saying: "There are gay guys who additionally have sex with women".
THAT is not denying you exist. That's just not giving you special attention because frankly you don't deserve special attention. Why? Because you aren't special.
If you were doing something RADICALLY different, then I'd entertain the argument.
Necrophiliacs have sex with the dead. That's radically different. BUT, I don't HEAR any necrophiliacs bitching and moaning about how fair it is that they all get lumped together. After all, I'm sure there are straight and gay necrophiliacs. Or, from your perspective - straight and gay and special special necrophiliacs.

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Nuggin
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Message 100 of 284 (626903)
07-31-2011 7:36 PM
Reply to: Message 89 by Dr Adequate
07-31-2011 5:52 PM


Re: You don't get it.
Apparently they don't even feel the need to mention it until you start telling offensive lies about them.
And now we've come full circle to your claim that bi-sexuals don't have sex with men (or with women).
Show me how I lied when I said that had sex with both. Then we can repeat that same 3-4 pages OVER and OVER with you continuing to claim you didn't say that, then accuse me of *** for saying that they have sex with both.
Won't that be fun.

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