daaaaaBEAR,
I am certainly no expert on the subject but perhaps I can shed some light on the situation. I think the first problem is in the name "Big Bang". It is my understanding that it would have been better termed "Big Expansion". It is not an explosion but rather a spreading out of space. I have found that Sylas has some fabulous explanations about it starting
here
If nothing else, reading that thread would give you much insight into the BB without having to wade through 20 pages of posts.
Hope this helps.
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