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Author Topic:   Focus on the Family Will Keep your Kid from Being Gay
Lizard Breath
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Message 278 of 317 (235669)
08-22-2005 6:34 PM
Reply to: Message 5 by coffee_addict
08-17-2005 6:40 PM


Identity Crisis
I'm attracted to the smell of men, which I cannot help. I like my man to be beer drinking, hairy, broad chested figure. Does this person sound like someone that has a gender identity crisis?
Yes.
There was a study done recently in which pairs of boys who were best friends and pairs of girls who were best friends were led into a room with 2 chairs parked close to each other. Their interactions were video taped.
Without exception, in all of the girl pairings in all age groups, the girls turned the chairs towards each other so as to face each other or to allow physical contact.
Also without exception for the boys except the six year olds which would not stay in the chairs, they put the chairs next to each other facing in the same direction and they would talk that way occasionally turning their heads to each other.
When asked about the depth of their friendships, none of the girl best friend pairs would say that they would die for one another if nessary. About 50% the the boys said that their friendships where deep enough to make the ultimate sacrifice for.
So from this I conclude that men form very deep bonding friendships with each other but when it comes to close contact, men are not comfortable with face to face close in type enguagements.
So for you to describe yourself as some kind of robust all man's kind of dude but then also say that you like to get intimate sexually with broad shouldered hairy dudes tells me that you are either joking on this thread, or you are very confused about what your role is in a man to man no bullshit go to the wall for each other relationship.
I'm not denying that you get off on other men's junk, but I also believe that that behavior strongly skews your perception of male to male relationships which is indeed an identity crisis.

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Lizard Breath
Member (Idle past 6726 days)
Posts: 376
Joined: 10-19-2003


Message 289 of 317 (235843)
08-23-2005 5:24 AM
Reply to: Message 280 by nator
08-22-2005 7:54 PM


Re: Identity Crisis
I believe that the gender communication styles are an important portal that allows the unique wiring of each gender to be viewed.
Like nuts and bolts. The bolts are the weight bearing entity and their tensile strength is critical. If the bolt is weak, then the point that the bolt is fastened will be weak.
The nut is the retaining device. It does not have to be as strong, but it's presision must be greater than the bolt's, for the nut must be able to mirror the bolt's thread pattern to be of any use. The nut rely's on the external torque placed on it to perform it's job as the anchor. Bolts bear the stress but the torque is excerted on the nut. Both are nessessary for a stable fastening point.
By doubling the number of bolts but with no nuts, you have fastening points that are suseptable to failure from any type of vibration or displacement. By doubling the number of nuts but with no bolts, you don't have a fastening point that can bear any type of load what so ever.

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