Paul urges husbands to love their wives. How is that a negative perspective on marriage?
And how does God love us? (Surely we should love our wives as God loves us?) By controlling us and being the master of our destinies? Or rather, from a position of non-interference where free will (and therefore the freedom to love) are preserved?
I don't even believe in God and yet I see that my position on marriage - a meeting of equals, a sharing of destiny, a love that can only exist where the freedom to love or not love is preserved - is far better supported by the bible than a simplistic idea of "man lead, woman follow".